the fastest way to kill motivation is to make your identity depend on the outcome. it’s called ego involvement. when failing becomes failing as a person, your brain starts avoiding the whole thing. not because you don’t care, but because you care too much.
besides the stunning filmmaking, what makes this hit is how it's a massive set-piece about a superhero risking his life to save civilians, something that has barely happened in any of these movies in years. if anything, it makes the scene more powerful today than it was then
My therapist asked me what I would do with my time if no one needed anything from me for a full week.
I said I had no idea.
She asked if that felt like freedom or like panic.
Panic, I said, immediately.
She said, when empty time feels like a threat, it means your identity is entirely built on being needed. And that is a fragile thing to build a life on.
I drove home and looked at my diary and noticed how little of it was actually mine.
Call it a millennial crisis if you want...
But in my 30's, I realized I don't actually want the life I worked so hard for. I don't care about titles. I don't care about climbing anyone else's ladder. I care about time. I care about slow mornings. I care about peace.I care about bare feet at the beach with nowhere to be.
I still want to make money... just not at the cost of my life.