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[CHIEF i k u k u 1 🇳🇴 @IEruona]

Pushed my Saturday chores to Sunday, and now Sunday has arrived

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

When someone teaches you something you didn't ask to learn, your brain reacts like it's in physical pain. UCLA scientists watched it happen on brain scans in 2003. The same wiring that fires when you stub your toe also fires when someone treats you like you need fixing.

Naomi Eisenberger and Matthew Lieberman ran the study and published it in Science. The brain region is the dorsal anterior cingulate cortex, which is just the fancy name for your main pain alarm. It doesn't care whether the threat is a hot stove or a friend telling you how to live.

A neuroscientist named David Rock built a framework around this in 2008. Five things make the brain feel safe in social moments: status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness. Take away any of those and the alarm fires. Rock wrote that one of the easiest ways to dent someone's status is to give them advice they didn't ask for. Even hinting that they're doing something wrong is enough.

When people are told what to do, they often do the opposite, even when the advice was good. The psychologist Jack Brehm noticed this in 1966, and sixty years of follow-up have confirmed it. The brain is trying to keep your life feeling like your own.

Close friends cut each other off with unsolicited advice in about 70% of supportive conversations, often before the friend has even finished explaining the problem. That number comes from a 2016 study by Bo Feng and Eran Magen in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. The closer the friendship, the worse it gets. And the advice tends to make them more stressed, more depressed, and more lonely, not less.

Giving advice gives the giver a sense of power, even when nobody asked for it. Michael Schaerer and his co-authors, working across Harvard, Duke, INSEAD, USC, and Singapore Management, published this in 2018 after four experiments with about 700 people. People who chase power volunteer advice more often than others. Whether the student actually improves is a side effect, if it happens at all.

So when you feel the urge to teach somebody who never asked, that urge is mostly about you. You walk away feeling a little more powerful. They walk away feeling like they were just told they can't run their own life. Most uninvited teaching is one person's ego dressed up as kindness.

[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

I’m in love with this sentence:

“The degree to which a person can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth he can accept about himself without running away.”

[chaotic memes @memechaotic]

That cat just saw all nine lives flash before its eyes 💀

[Freyy @Freyy_is]

someone once told me “emotional intelligence is the discipline of sitting with a feeling long enough to understand it before you hand it to someone else” and that honestly changed how i move.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Marry the person who's found their calling and passion. Envy kills more marriages than infidelity does. Marry someone who loves to see you rise because they're rising too.

[ghitta (lizzie’s wifey) ★ @ghitadiaries]

this scene alone deserved so much more

[LFT OXY @Lft_Oxy]

Sunday night my mother passed away from cancer. Im at a loss of words. I won’t be able to play the matches this weekend because of her funeral ,but I have two favors too ask. 1 pray for my mother. 2. Call your parents and talk to them. You’ll never know when it’s the last time.

[cinemoments @TheCineMoments]

Love isn't just one happy moment. It's a million ✨

- Eternity (2025)

[Kess @KessVLR]

24 today 🥳!

Usually don’t make birthday posts but I felt like I owe to the people who made my last year one of the most eventful and unforgettable years of my life.
Thank you to everyone who has followed and supported me on my lil journey of living a life that 10 year old Drew would only dream of.

Here’s to more!

[hanz @hanznathanpo]

room temp take: if you lock in when it's time to lock in and have fun when it's time to have fun, you'll get more done and have more fun than if you had tried to do both at the same time

[Kess @KessVLR]

Nothing but grateful!

Still looking for any opportunities!

Please DM me or @derrick_truong 😁

[DiscussingFilm @DiscussingFilm]

New trailer for ‘ETERNITY’, starring Elizabeth Olsen, Miles Teller and Callum Turner.

The rom-com follows a reality where everyone must decide who they want to spend eternity with.

In theaters on November 26.

[🍂 @Lovandfear]

just read “to be loved is to be worth the inconvenience” it blew my mind away.

[NO CONTEXT HUMANS @HumansNoContext]

This might be the cutest thing I’ve ever seen

[blue @bluewmist]

I don't know who needs to hear this, but start living.

The days are flying by, and all you do is work, pay bills, and stress.

Enjoy what you can-walks, sunsets, music, laughter. Joy doesn't have to be expensive. You deserve it.

[NRM84 @Mappy6984]

Suddenly, my problems don’t seem too big