A survivor who has never known safety or dignity talks with you—you treat her/him carefully, respectfully, kindly and with gentleness—have you changed them? No. But in that moment, in your Christlikeness, you have by His Spirit brought a small shaft of light into their darkness.
"I'm grateful that I have suffered so that I can be more fully human. And so I love the thing that I most wish didn't happen because it gave me a gift.” (Stephen Colbert)
Bless you who sit in the tension of listening and supporting without fixing. Your ministry can be exhausting and weighty, but know that you are making an important difference as you bear witness to the lives of those who are suffering.
1. Humiliation – The toxic power of shame.
2. Humility – The fruit, fragrance, and freedom of God’s grace.
3. Hardening one's heart – The insanity of refusing to humble ourselves to receive God’s welcoming, healing, transforming grace.
To forgive isn’t to “let someone off the hook”—a fishing image of releasing a fish tricked into taking our bait. To forgive is to stay humbled, astonished, and grateful for how God has fully forgiven us in Christ, and then to extend that same mercy and grace to others.
I hope you’ll go be with your brothers and sisters in your local church tomorrow—and really be with them. Enjoy their company. Fellowship in prayer, the word and song. Try not to be in a hurry to leave them. Serve them and be served.
Remember Jn 13:34-35 and 1 Pe 2:9-10 and 12.