lorna R

My name is lorna I'm a wife, a mummy of 3 and i work in childcare ! busy busy busy

[lorna R @lornak66]

@shirleyanne1274 😱😱 no no no!! It’s too early for Xmas 🤣 I’m sipping a cocktail on the beach in the sun…. No mention of Xmas yet 🤣🤣

[lorna R @lornak66]

What a fab day at the @tigersltd close community conference listening to @SuzanneZeedyk, @TheBabyExpert and @lesleeudwin. I’m feeling inspired, shattered, overwhelmed but most of all courageous! ❤️ is all around, we just need to be strong enough to make change! #thinkequal #❤️

[Tigers Group @TIGERS_UK]

Teaching our children to #love are they getting taught this in society as equally as numeracy, literacy? Is there a missing dimension to education #emotionalliteracy #relationships #attachments #selfworth #traumainformed @lesleeudwin #TheCloseCommunity starts in the #earlyyears

[Emily Paschall @EmilyAPaschall]

Read that again. ⬇️

[The Gottman Institute @GottmanInst]

5 Steps of #EmotionCoaching:

1. Be aware of your child's emotions.
2. Recognize emotion as an opportunity for connection.
3. Help your child verbally label emotions.
4. Communicate empathy & understanding.
5. Set limits & problem solve.

Read more: https://t.co/lO8JL0DEdq

[Play Scotland @PlayScotland]

#Play is the work of #childhood, and the good news is that we don't need much to make it happen! Allow children to #playfreely and watch the joy on their faces 🪁☀
#playeveryday #moreplayplease #playoutdoors #playistheway

[Play Scotland @PlayScotland]

Say yes to #play! 👇

[lorna R @lornak66]

@BeatonLynsey Best night ever 🥰🥰💃🏻💃🏻

[Pauline Scott 🍊💜 @paulinescott222]

I continue to be reminded that we don't always know the pain that another person carries.

We can make assumptions or lack kindness.

I can do better.

[Naomi Fisher @naomicfisher]

What should we do about attendance? Here’s a pathway I hear way too often. Child manages primary school fine, is happy there and excited to go to secondary school. They start, bright eyed and bushy tailed, and like many eleven-year-olds they find the transition hard. It’s a big step up.

Expectations are suddenly much higher than at primary school, not necessarily academically but in what is demanded of them outside the academics. They have to remember much more and the level of organisation required is significant. They have to get themselves from class to class with the right books and equipment and remember to walk on the right side of the corridor and not to talk. They don’t have one teacher throughout the day who they can get to know. They don’t know who to ask for help.

Eleven-year-olds are immature. They find all of this stuff much harder than adults, not because they are lazy, but because they are eleven and their brains have a lot of development still to do. They’ll still be developing until they are about 25, in fact. The things which are not well developed yet are exactly the things which they need to keep up secondary school – self-management, self-organisation and self-monitoring. It’s a struggle for them to keep up.

If their school has a high control approach, quickly they start to either get behaviour points or to worry about getting behaviour points. They start checking things all the time, and they become hysterical at home when they have lost a green pen, torn a homework page or they can’t find their socks. Emotion regulation is something else which is still in development at age eleven, and teenagers feel emotions (particularly when connected to shaming in front of their peers) intensely.

Their parents get alerts of demerits and they get detentions, having never been in trouble at primary school. They forget a detention (because they are eleven, and keeping track of things is harder when you are immature) and then they are in isolation. They start to lose their sparkle. They think that the teachers don’t like them. Everything piles up on them and they are increasingly unhappy. They start saying they don’t want to go to school.

School react by saying that if they don’t come every day, they’ll be excluded from the school trip and offer an certificate for 100% attendance. This doesn’t help. Their unhappiness increases. Every morning is a struggle. They become a ‘persistent absentee’ and their parents get official letters and fixed penalty fines. Their parents say ‘It was like falling off a cliff’ and they don’t know what to do.

Where’s the problem here? Is it ‘behaviour’ and they should simply be made to keep going to school? Or is there a problem with what is going on in some of our schools, creating an environment in which some children simply can’t thrive?

If we aren’t allowed to ask the question, we’ll never find out.

[lorna R @lornak66]

@shirleyanne1274 Look at those happy faces!! Muddy, but happy lol xx

[lorna R @lornak66]

@BeatonLynsey Best weekend ever ❤️❤️

[lorna R @lornak66]

@BeatonLynsey @colleenhoover Time for part 2 xx

[lorna R @lornak66]

@BeatonLynsey Amazing Dar⭐️ well done!!!!!!

[lorna R @lornak66]

@trafficscotland @dunky1991 There’s been a bump just outside the Milton inn heading by towards dumbarton. It was there about an hour ago so might be getting cleared now

[lorna R @lornak66]

@BeatonLynsey It sure is ❤️❤️

[lorna R @lornak66]

@BeatonLynsey ❤️always xxx

[lorna R @lornak66]

Save Maryhill’s Second Fire Appliance https://t.co/Jio1Ctor0y via @UKChange

[Donna Ashworth @Donna_ashworth]

Not everyone will like you.
Not everyone will agree with the things you say, or do.
Not everyone will understand why you are who you are,
which trials and tribulations made you stronger, weaker, braver.
Not everyone will care enough to look beneath,
peek behind,
Or read between.
That’s ok.
Some people will.
Some people will find you so fascinating that they will delve right into your depths.
Some people will devour your words and commit them to memory,
should they ever need to revisit them again in times of pain.
Some people will crave your company like a flower craves the rain.
Some people will not only appreciate your light but they will reflect it right back.
They will charge you from the soul, like being plugged into the sun.
Those are your people.
Accept no shade from haters my friend, life brings enough of that.
Always seek out the light.~

~Donna Ashworth,
from the ‘Right Words: when you need them most’
https://t.co/14W2bP2Wo2

art: Maxwell Doig. #maxwelldoigart

#thursday #words #art #poetry #quotes #dailyquotes #friendships

[lorna R @lornak66]

@imamberzoe @callumstweets Congratulations ❤️❤️