I don’t mean to sound melodramatic but do y’all ever think about how humanity used to navigate the world by the stars and now people can’t make a grocery list without help from AI.
Because feelings are fleeting. They are influenced by mood, by circumstance, by the way someone said good morning or the way they did not text back fast enough. If you build a relationship on how someone makes you feel, you are building on sand. One bad week, one argument, one moment of distance, and the whole thing shakes. But when you build on who you are becoming, you build on something solid. You build on growth, on alignment, on mutual evolution.
Am I growing? Am I becoming more secure, more regulated, more expressive? Or am I shrinking? Am I becoming more anxious, more doubtful, more disconnected from myself?
If none of the growth is happening, you should not be there. No matter how you feel. No matter how much history you share. No matter how much you love them. If you are not becoming a better version of yourself, the relationship is not serving you. It is holding you back. And love is not supposed to hold you back. It is supposed to propel you forward.
i also think “do men *want* to change” is a far more relevant question than “can they change” and it’s a question they continue to answer every day. they have the will to change, indeed. many are using it to get more violent
My therapist once told me: Imagine being bitten by a snake and, instead of treating the bite, you waste time chasing the snake to understand why it bit you and prove you didn't deserve it.
why does no one care about the fact that we're projected to run out of clean drinking water by 2039 because of how much water ai data centers use please stop using chatgpt y'all, i beg. you do not need a shitty looking cartoon of yourself, i promise. the planet is dying.
they literally don’t see little black girls as children. and if I said the adultification and sexualization of little black girls is connected to slavery…
i’ll give my period a smooth 3.5 days to do her biggest ones. but on day 4? i decide that i am spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically done. she better figure that shit out, because i’m not about to dedicate anymore time to that nonsense.