@wylbladerzr i want her to be able to be happy and express her gender identity in a way that makes her happy without using harmful innacurate language to refer to trans women. im not asking her to call herself cis. im asking her to not call *us* our genitals.
@wylbladerzr i mean, she doesnt understand us because c!s women dont understand us. one of the most defining aspects of being a trans woman is having bodily dysphoria (relating to your penis and male anatomy). she understands us in the same way any transmasc would. not as a transfem
@wylbladerzr like, is she calling herself transfem for being 'ftmtf' or because, she wants to be a woman with a penis. which just like. isnt what we are. in any way
@wylbladerzr a fetishistic, oversimplified, objectifying view of trans women. trans women arent 'women with penises on estrogen' thats the problem. saying that does infact make us seem like some kind of 'third gender'. at the end of the day she does not understand what it is to be transfem
@wylbladerzr its not that i dont get her having complicated dysphoria outside the norms of transgender dysphoria, because i'm mtftm(tf?), i understand that. its that if i ask you why you want to be a trans woman, and you say its because you want to be a woman with a penis, that is 1/2