Sharon’s son

This is a place to put my thoughts. Some inspirational, some funny & some sad. It’s my journal of having a mom with Alzheimer’s.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

Love never dies. Even with dementia. Even with death. Had dinner with mom last month and she saved half her dinner for her husband to finish.
The bittersweet part - dad died 3 years ago. I helped her wrap it up, and then I cried on the way home.
Happy anniversary, Mom. Love you.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

I stopped this "twitter diary" during Covid, when I was unable to visit my mom.
Tuesday, after 5+ years w/ Alzheimer's, my mom Sharon has been reunited with her beloved parents, brothers and husband. She's singing, and dancing, and being the funniest person in the room again.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

Goodbye to my childhood home.
Tougher than I thought.
So thankful my parents worked so hard to give me a great life.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

This is my first tweet here since August. For the 1st time in OVER A YEAR, I was able to take my mom out of the facility and dine with her. (State rules).
She is in decline but I continue to appreciate our time together.
I hope you appreciate any time you have with your mom. XO

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

@2MelissaHolmes Thankful for every lucid moment.
Thanks, Missy. 💜

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

She was groggy.
They had to wake her up for my strictly timed visit.
And the rest of our time was as expected.
But hearing Mom tell the aide “I don’t have a son named Kevin” shocked me.
A minute or so later, what’s left of Mom’s memory was refreshed.
Nice conversation overall.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

@PWOC Yes I suspect that. She has regressed back in time. Many family members that have passed are still alive to her.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

@Lord_Gow Such a beautiful statement.
Thank you.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

Had family over for my daughter’s 2nd birthday and mom was not mentioned.
It’s a no-win reality having a parent with dementia. So much guilt.
My mom of 3 years ago LOVED birthdays. But she’s not allowed to leave facility (Covid), and at this point her memory loss is too profound.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

@Jime1B So sorry James.
I can only imagine how tough that is for you.
Best wishes, stay strong.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

@NavyMom623 Thank you Ella it is a long tough journey as you know.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

@aebucholtz Phil always said hello and is very pleasant.

Best wishes to you and your family.
Nice facility.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

I would imagine the mask and my new gray sideburns may also affect her lack of recognition.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

@Joeob1990Brienp Joe, I have no problem with that statement.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

Talked to mom (former teacher) on the phone.

She’s “playing a game with some teaching friends and they’re sharing stories”.

Her comfort level gave me a wonderful day.

She’s literally and metaphorically in a good place.

God bless the men and women keeping her safe & content.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

Tough day for me.
Mom asked how my boys are doing.
She has no grandsons.
Not sure where her confusion came from.
I corrected her & showed her pics of my girls.
She felt dumb, then loved the pics.
I did the wrong thing.
I should have said “they’re great mom and they say hello.”

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

Mom at a Bills game.
She loves to watch every game.
My grandma did too.
My sis, wife and daughter also in that pic.
Football is in our family DNA. And in our city’s DNA.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

Mom was sweet & quiet.
Walking very slow.
During the conversation I’ll ask her some questions just to see if she remembers (mother-in-law name, who sings a song she likes).

Alzheimer’s can take her memory and motor skills, but it can’t touch her heart, and her ability to love.

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

The home said mom needs some new undergarments so here i go

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

Couldn’t touch her. That was awkward to explain. And the mask always needs explanation.
But this beats talking through a window.
My mom is losing memory for major events 1-10 years ago.
To be expected.
It was nice to sit 6 feet from her.
She can still tell a great story. 💜

[Sharon’s son @losingsharon]

@NavyMom623 Yes, strangely, the people around the individual with dementia suffer more than the individual does!
That’s actually comforting to think sometimes.
My mom is content (most of the time) and safe.
Family and faith are important for those surrounding an Alz patient.