his identity is not whatever's convenient for you, or whatever will give you the upper hand in stupid twitter discourse. it's his and his alone, and it costs nothing to be a decent human being about it.
sh is queer until he presents in way thats not up to your expectations, or cuts his hair and says he prefers it short and suddenly he's been queerbaiting this whole time bc identity is based on your hair and clothes apparently
sh is queer until people point out that the way he's often treated is rooted in misogyny and suddenly he's a c!s straight man who we can call derogatory names and assign gender roles to without consequence