Man what, you mean every time someone realizes something about themselves that has been likely sitting confusingly dormant inside of them forever. Trans guys and queer women are the best duos get a grip
Those things because of the lovely friends I’ve collected along the way in every part of my life. The feeling of not belonging is in everyone and once I realized it’s a game of pretending it got a lot easier to enjoy myself
increasing your surface area for luck to hit you comes with increasing your surface area for embarrassment to hit you, but I would say the ratio is 7:3 and by the time embarrassment comes you will have people to share it with and laugh about it and get comforted for it.
I used to be so terrified of judgement, until I realized I was judging people by assuming they were judging me. And the amount of avenues that opened up by standing in silence, showing up alone, and being okay with it has greatly improved my life. Now I don’t really have to do-