Love Is Selfish

You exist for your own happiness, not others. I tweet for fun about masculinity, femininity, love, sex, relationships and dating.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@Etanarachel See. She values sex for reproduction, that the purpose of sex is reproduction.

[Diane Yap @RealDianeYap]

I do think that’s the evolved purpose of sex, and because men are hormonal and emotional, they try to make their urges other people’s problem.

They lose sight of the purpose and try to cast it as a need.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@Etanarachel When you don’t value sex for whatever reason, either out of conflict with your other values or because you’re not healthy enough to value it. An example being the Madonna-whore complex.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@eris_nerung Helpless*

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@eris_nerung Maybe there’s a power dynamic, but that doesn’t mean the man is “educating a little helpfulness idiotic girl”. That’s just what you and others can read into it if you want.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

If a zygote is a child, then men are in a situation like women where they can kill a child, so you can look at rates that men kill children where the mother opposes it and rates where women kill children (including abortions without danger to the woman) where the father opposes it.

Though a zygote isn’t a child, so women should have the right to abort. That’s why pregnancy is a completely different situation.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@mwilliamw87 @SSRValeriaPrima @Colonel_Keez Pretty sure he’s saying that his truth is that he is a white supremacist, as evidenced by his online presence.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@kanandumeroad Not many people have much tolerance for philosophizing that isn’t useful for their happiness, maybe women especially judging by the lack of women in academic philosophy.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@RealDianeYap Sex can be the highest expression of love, for men and women. Just because sex isn’t romantic for you for whatever reason, that’s not how it’s like for everyone else.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

Finding a woman worth spending the rest of your life with is extremely valuable to men. And, in America at least, studies suggest that married men are generally happier than unmarried men.

Whether you register that legally is a different issue.

Proposing is usually better for men if your beloved has self-esteem. And so is asking a woman to be your girlfriend.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

Putting aside what emotion is most difficult to control, anger is a reaction to unfairness. Fear is a reaction to a threat to your values. Some people also believe that being threatened is unfair sometimes, so they get angry.

[Corporate Machiavelli @Mach_Tactics]

Fear is the most difficult emotion to control.

Anger is the 2nd most difficult emotion to control.

After all, anger is nothing more than the offensive expression of fear.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@Mach_Tactics Anger is a response to unfairness. Though, some become angry for being caused to feel fear.

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@TheXMatriarch It really depends on the marriage whether it’s worth it.

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@Mmesoma_001 Rejection hurts even if you know that, and some people deal with it unjustly.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@bestmenspod No evidence that it’s a terrible idea for pursuing happiness. And I assume you think women should propose marriage to men as well.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@bestmenspod Initiating exclusivity doesn’t mean pushing for it exactly, but initiating with a woman includes escalating the intimacy, physical but also asking a woman to be your girlfriend or wife.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@caesarjackson4 @RenovatioCordis At least I support solutions that are actually useful for male victims of rape.

And I’m blocking you.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@caesarjackson4 @RenovatioCordis That’s viable for his situation, but it doesn’t work when rape isn’t easy for the court to determine ie many of them.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

A man has all sorts of innate physiological differences which are more advantageous in life, so that equal effort by men and women ends up different. Like, if you’re carrying in groceries with your girlfriend, you carry more groceries because you’re stronger. And making your girlfriend carry more would put more of a burden on her.

In a similar way, when you’re interested in a woman worthy of you, then since you have the advantage you initiate instead of putting the greater burden on her to do so.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@Stockb119987 @godlywomanhood Hmmm… you’re right. Passionate and willing is better.

[Love Is Selfish @LovingIsSelfish]

@RationalMale Women who are valuable for your happiness do not.