According to attachment theory, genuine love is reflected in how someone responds to your pain, not just your presence. When someone truly values your wellbeing, their deepest fear isn't losing access to you - it's causing you harm. But when someone only loves what you provide for them they fear losing their supply, not hurting your heart. This subtle difference reveals everything about whether you're loved for who you are or what you give. Notice which one keeps them awake at night
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
feeling attracted to someone only lasts a maximum of 4 months. If you can go past that time, you're in love. The infatuation stage can last anywhere from 4 months to 1 year. If you exceed that time, it could be said that what you feel is true love.
Me costó mucho soltarte, pero al final sí lo hice. Releí ese mensaje varias veces antes de borrarlo. Te extrañé de la manera más silenciosa posible. Cuando veo algo que me recuerda a ti, deseo que estés bien, donde sea que estés. Gracias por no llamar, porque si habría contestado.
If you want to live a life that's aligned with who you genuinely are, stop "performing". Don't laugh at their stupid jokes. Don't respond just because they want you to. Don't lower your standards to fit in. Don't sacrifice your taste just because they don't have any. Don't do anything, anything... that makes you shrink yourself. That makes you dilute the very essence of who you already are. Let them do the work. Let them rise to your standards. Why not? They're not special. You are. You know who you are. It's your reality. Your life. Don't bend.