everything about girl friendships are so gentle, the small checkups just because, the bonding over universal feelings & experiences, feeling refreshed after being around one another
I use to work at a dog day care and one thing we were trained on is breaking up dog fights / bites.
First grab the dog by the back legs and wheel barrow them back. Keep holding the legs up so the dog canโt get any leverage on the other dog.
If your dog still wonโt let go, you need to slide your hand under the collar (behind the neck), pull up and twist the collar and choke the dog until they let go. If the dog doesnโt have a collar, use a leash. (Do this too long and you can end up unaliving the dog.) Sounds intense I know but itโs a life saving move all dog owners should know.
It's crazy. I used to cry hard so over my ex. Cry with my whole body and soul.
Over small things. His responses to me.
His lack of response to me. When I felt confused about him, I'd sob. When I missed him, I'd weep. My body was physically rejecting him & I thought it was love.
How your partner was loved as a child will show up in: how they react when hurt, how they communicate during conflict, and how they respond when you share your feelings.
Later, you tell your partner that joke hurt your feelings, and you didn't find it funny.
Your partner says: "I was joking, why are you taking things so seriously. I didn't mean anything by it."
Note: some people don't apologize because they feel like they didn't mean to hurt the other person's feelings or didn't have bad intentions.
For example: Your partner makes a joke about a topic that's sensitive for you in front of friends.
In healthy relationships, apologies allow us to create emotional intimacy. When we take accountability for how we impact the people close to us, they feel seen.
This creates deeper bonds and a level of trust.
Many of us grew up in homes where authentic apologies weren't modeled. After people hurt each other they: shut down, avoided the issue, or pretended like the issue didn't happen.