lybi ma

Executive Editor/Psychology Today
Author of How to Be Less Miserable

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In Hui-Chinese, the third character of procrastination—拖延症 tuō yán zhèng—means disease. Things that we put off come with emotional states such as anxiety, frustration, and resentment. https://t.co/TAuOlLfYkj

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We can stop fighting with ourselves through wu wei 無為.
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Striving for perfection, wan mei 完美, is a waste of time. Research has seen a rise in perfectionism in recent years, but the need for flawlessness is a frame of mind that stokes many mental illnesses.
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In the aftermath of a downfall, we can adopt the Hui-Chinese approach of suanli, 酸了, and move on. https://t.co/P2hMvWM9YP

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The Buddha's lotus, the lian hua 莲花, surfaces through mud, and its waxy petals deflect the muck. It is transcendent and peaceful. We can also embrace the beauty of nature. And while we’re at it, we can lower the heat of the stew brewing inside our heads.
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Thank you for this one-on-one interview, and for your interest in being less miserable @BookstrOfficial
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Thank you for your review of my book @DrSusanNewman. Much appreciated.
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We have to work through our feelings—ourselves. No one else can do it for us. We can try down-regulating and up-regulating our moods—much like shifting the gears of a manual car.
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Guilt and shame are felt more when one’s needs for safety and belonging have not been met. Such self-evaluation can be harsh, leading to low self-worth. Guilt equals "I did something bad," while shame equals "I am something bad."
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Our emotions are contagious. Why not spread a little sunshine? https://t.co/iFVl5f8dvm

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Thank you for your thoughtful review. @christophlane I didn't realize my approach is to "restore movement to relationships that have become paralyzed by dysfunction." Your words, not mine. Much appreciated. (Image by apghedia) https://t.co/2RgyGTermg

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Many emotions have a flip side—fear and courage, excitement and apathy, pride and humility. To live a rich life, we can feel all of life’s emotions. https://t.co/3xxODZGQDX

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The ups and downs of our moods can take us on a wild ride. Many of us jump with the extreme highs of happiness, then we sink into the desperate lows of distress. Negating half the emotions we experience doesn't help us.
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Euthanasia in Nazi Germany demonstrated how easily a group of people can be targeted through the lens of disease. https://t.co/5N1turWpa5

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Negativity is more complex than positivity, and we have to work to wrap our minds around it.
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My Hui cousins in the Tibetan-Qinghai plateau don’t slosh in what could have been or ought to be. Instead, they frequently use the expression bai le, 败了—the acceptance that hardship is part of everyday existence. https://t.co/4EIsU0OMR7

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Emotions are not the enemy. All emotions are part of life, and we should feel every one of them. How can a person feel real joy without knowing the pain of sadness? https://t.co/LsRfaas1Oh

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Thank you for your continued support. My book is doing well because of you. If possible, please share with your network that my publisher is running an eBook promotion until January 11 on all major platforms: Amazon, Apple Books, Barnes & Noble, and Google.

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We get stuck when we ruminate over our niggling bellyaches, but we don't have to mope in misery. https://t.co/w0BFdyCmKD

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Humans have a bias toward the negative when faced with the unknowns in life. If we want to think creatively, some tolerance for ambiguity and not knowing may be required. https://t.co/iPwM1haVM4