In Hui-Chinese, the third character of procrastination—拖延症 tuō yán zhèng—means disease. Things that we put off come with emotional states such as anxiety, frustration, and resentment. https://t.co/TAuOlLfYkj
Striving for perfection, wan mei 完美, is a waste of time. Research has seen a rise in perfectionism in recent years, but the need for flawlessness is a frame of mind that stokes many mental illnesses.
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The Buddha's lotus, the lian hua 莲花, surfaces through mud, and its waxy petals deflect the muck. It is transcendent and peaceful. We can also embrace the beauty of nature. And while we’re at it, we can lower the heat of the stew brewing inside our heads.
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We have to work through our feelings—ourselves. No one else can do it for us. We can try down-regulating and up-regulating our moods—much like shifting the gears of a manual car.
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Guilt and shame are felt more when one’s needs for safety and belonging have not been met. Such self-evaluation can be harsh, leading to low self-worth. Guilt equals "I did something bad," while shame equals "I am something bad."
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Thank you for your thoughtful review. @christophlane I didn't realize my approach is to "restore movement to relationships that have become paralyzed by dysfunction." Your words, not mine. Much appreciated. (Image by apghedia) https://t.co/2RgyGTermg
Many emotions have a flip side—fear and courage, excitement and apathy, pride and humility. To live a rich life, we can feel all of life’s emotions. https://t.co/3xxODZGQDX
The ups and downs of our moods can take us on a wild ride. Many of us jump with the extreme highs of happiness, then we sink into the desperate lows of distress. Negating half the emotions we experience doesn't help us.
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My Hui cousins in the Tibetan-Qinghai plateau don’t slosh in what could have been or ought to be. Instead, they frequently use the expression bai le, 败了—the acceptance that hardship is part of everyday existence. https://t.co/4EIsU0OMR7
Emotions are not the enemy. All emotions are part of life, and we should feel every one of them. How can a person feel real joy without knowing the pain of sadness? https://t.co/LsRfaas1Oh
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Humans have a bias toward the negative when faced with the unknowns in life. If we want to think creatively, some tolerance for ambiguity and not knowing may be required. https://t.co/iPwM1haVM4