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[Osaretin Victor Asemota @asemota]

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[Enyinnaya @enyinna_]

You can mock Nigerian girls all you want for lacking communication skills, but the truth is that Nigerian society is generally hostile to honest conversation.

The more Nigerians you deal with, the more you notice a pattern: people avoid saying things directly. They deflect, suppress, and sidestep difficult discussions until, seemingly out of nowhere, there's an emotional outburst.

Many of our siblings, parents, lecturers, bosses, and peers exhibit this trait to varying degrees: avoid, deflect, avoid—then suddenly, get mad.

[Tony Banks @Plancks]

@Aduradara61049 You have this thought process because your mindset is similar to that of a wh0re who thinks men are only useful to pay your bills and give you money while you give them sex in return. Change youe mindset and you will understand life better

[Taiwo_junzi @taiwo_junzi]

If someone robbed from you, would you become a robber as a result?!
No!!!

Why?!
Becasue you do not like stealing.

If your husband builds you a house, will you do the same back?!

Most likely no, becasue it’s not something you really desire to do. You’ve probably not been praying to God to bless you so that you can buy your husband his dream car.

Your mind isn’t operating that way because those are actions that you do not deeply desire for yourself.

There’s a reason why cheating back is an option for you and it has nothing to do with your husband, it simply because it’s what you want to do.

The average Nigerian woman would never surprise me.

[Enyinnaya @enyinna_]

I remember a lady I used to speak with a few years ago. We fell out because I casually told her I thought it was proper for men to avoid viewing thirst traps. She said she was “weirded out” perhaps because they were “just pictures,” and more or less dismissed me.

I was irritated for two reasons.

First, I actually took women I knew seriously when they expressed discomfort about anything—even when I personally didn’t understand the concern. I believed that if someone felt strongly about something, it deserved consideration. But that grace didn’t seem to extend me. Her discomfort instantly became the final authority on the matter, even though the issue wasn’t personal to her.

Secondly, I’ve always disliked when specific emotions are hidden behind vague words like “weird.” I often talk about this. As in, what is it that you actually  mean?

Do you disapprove? Are you disgusted? Do you think it’s unnecessary? Excessive? Why? What concern or value is underneath that reaction?

I believe in expression. If you tell me plainly what you feel, then at least I understand something about your values, your fears, your likes and dislikes. But what exactly am I supposed to do with “weirded out”? 

At the time, this bothered me even more because she also presented herself as reverent toward the Catholic faith. So in my mind, I was thinking: “Why is a Christian girl uncomfortable with a Christian man adopting fairly orthodox Christian principles?”

But beyond that specific disagreement, the experience gave me an early glimpse into what dating could feel like: being cast into a negative light without discussion, nuance, or curiosity. And if the relationship somehow remained civil afterward, it subtly became a story where she “forgave” you—not one where two people simply disagreed or turned out incompatible.

After a few more experiences like that, I stopped approaching romantic interests with seriousness unless the subject itself demanded seriousness. In some ways, I became more guarded with people generally—men included. I don’t know if this is especially Nigerian or just broadly human, but I increasingly feel that many people are driven less by sincerity, and more by the need to feel something about themselves: mature, unbothered, morally superior, peaceful, emotionally intelligent. Anything but honest.

People don’t say what they mean: they speak to pose; not to reveal who they are. Some just like hearing themselves speak, the reactions that follow it, and the bonding experience it might result in even though it lasts only for a single moment. I am often first empathetic about this aspect of people because I believe my being genuine comes naturally, and hardly by any conscious effort on my part. And conscious effort isn’t something I expect of the average person. But my patience is easily exhausted. And perhaps even more extreme, is that when I turn my back on someone, I almost never reconcile with them in future. I don’t re-invest in people.

It seems, to many, plain reality feels too burdensome, so they act around it instead. In this regard, I deserve better, for my time and resources.

[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

This sentences by Van Gogh hits hard:

“If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now. For wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning.”

[Peng @Acedouglas01]

If a woman had the money you have, she wouldn’t settle for you bro.

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

@ThaBoyYom If you need incentive to be good, you're not good. A good person is good for goodness sake.

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

This babe said she wants the type of guy that would ask her if she is free in 2 weeks because he wants to fly her to Dubai and fly her first class. She said any man that flies her economy is a useless person.

Such a person cannot love you and has zero desire to love. This performative love that is Instagrammable is delusional.
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There is a lady that loves Malta Guinness. My guy bought her two crates and she melted in his arms. I know another one that loves avocado and anytime her man buys avocado for her, she lights up like a child. True desire!

I always wonder if you people don't enjoy life's little pleasure. Don't you have something that you genuinely enjoy when nobody is watching? You see that mama that sells ewa agoyin and soft bread that you enjoy, tell your date you love her food. You love climbing trees and plucking ebelebo, tell your person. You enjoy the silliness of solidifying milo and chewing on it like a snack, tell your person. If you're afraid to tell your person what you really enjoy, it is not love. 1Jn 4:18 says "there is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love."

Try to enjoy things that do not require external validation. A girl saw a public proposal and she spoke out that if she doesn't get something like this, she is not accepting it because she does not deserve less. Her friend asked her, would you be okay getting it if you won't have to post it on social media and she said No. So it is not that she actually likes it, she just wants to pepper people and get validation. Some of the thing you people crave, you do not really care about it. You just feel like it elevates you in people's eyes.

Don't murder the child in you trying to live up to external validation. Do the things that make the child in you, light up.

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

The phone you're using now, you were once very anxious about getting it. How long did the excitement last after you got it?

Exactly.

That is how it is with everything you're anxious about. When you get it, epiphany hits. "So this is it?"

[Enyinnaya @enyinna_]

Suddenly revealing how attracted you are to me because you’re in a stage in your life where you “can’t afford to play games,” is an insult to me.

[Illimitable Man (IM) @SovereignIM]

Arguing is sort of like sex. It should be a privilege to do it with you, because it's not something you are willing to do with just anyone. Many people want to do it with you, but you actively refuse it to all but the most worthy.

[YOM🗣️ @ThaBoyYom]

As a Nigerian adult, your health can actually get 60% better just by avoiding

- Noodles
- Pasta
- Bread
- Semo
- Alcohol + Sugary beverages
- Shawarma/Pizza/Pastries

In fact, just start seeing them as poison and avoid completely

Try it for just 4 months first and see.

[GT Atas @GodstimeAtas]

@ThaBoyYom Our women are not civilized, they are just extremely westernized.

[DON “Tobechukwu” Ade 👑 @Row_Haastrup]

Okay, since this seems to be a recurring issue, I’ll address it so others can learn from it as well.

First, this is not a classic case of erectile dysfunction (ED). ED is the consistent inability to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for sexual activity. In this case, the man is clearly capable of both, so it doesn’t fit that definition.

What this points to instead is something known as situational or psychogenic erectile dysfunction, sometimes also described as partner-specific arousal issues.

This typically happens when there is a psychological or emotional disconnect with a partner. Over time, factors like unresolved conflict, reduced emotional intimacy, stress, routine, or even guilt can affect sexual responsiveness within a marriage.

In some cases, especially where there has been infidelity or growing emotional attachment elsewhere, the mind becomes conditioned to respond differently. The novelty, excitement, or emotional stimulation tied to someone else can temporarily override underlying issues, which is why performance may seem “normal” outside the marriage but not within it. Such that when he is with another woman he has grown emotionally with, he becomes a stallion but when with his wife, he becomes a chicken.

However, it’s important to understand that this isn’t always about another woman. It can also be about:

- Emotional distance between spouses
- Lack of communication or unresolved tension
- Sexual routine or boredom
- Performance anxiety
- Stress (financial, family, or work-related)

At its core, this is a mind–body issue, not just a physical one.

Infidelity, when present, can absolutely damage intimacy and weaken the sexual connection between husband and wife. But even without it, neglecting emotional closeness over time can produce the same outcome.

The solution here isn’t secrecy or comparison — it’s honesty, communication, and in many cases, intentional work to rebuild emotional and sexual intimacy within the marriage.

Hope this helps

[YOM🗣️ @ThaBoyYom]

- I maintain the argument that you have more work to do with a Woman that wants you and genuinely wants the best for you, than you do with a Woman that doesn’t really want you.

I’ll explain…

When a Woman isn’t really into you, it’d be glaring that all she’s there for is for what she can get..

And that’s not so hard to tell and figure(especially if you have money as a Man).. You can easily see all she demands is financial attention.. And you already have it.. So that’s not so much work.. You’re just stupid to think you can build something genuine with that type of person.. But it’d be an easy ride ultimately for the guy.
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Now the Woman that indeed wants you and wants the best for you..

It’d require you to start doing better, living right, she’d desire your attention, she’d monitor your friendships, career choices, your decision making game has to be on-point, now you have to show up more beyond finances because she’d need your sense of judgement with so many things going on even in her own life.

So the question is..

Are you even mentally ready for a good woman that genuinely wants you ?

Are you a solid human being enough to navigate life with a super solid Woman ?

It’s simple!(and ironic too) coz it’s easier dealing with babes that are not really into you.

Why do you think simps with money almost always get to be with useless girls then get burnt later ?

The ‘loser’ in them is just trying to use money to cover up for what is required of them to be with a sensible woman that genuinely wants them.

[superdad @udysznx]

as a guy, i no fit rate you if you still get issues with your papa

you suppose don understand life from hin own angle by now

[goma @soigomaa]

My "Roman Empire is the realization that my life is a lottery win. Somewhere in Sudan, Pålestine, iran, Afghanistan, Iraq or Congo, there is a boy smarter than me. He is more disciplined, more resilient, and holds more potential in his single finger than I do in my entire career.
The only difference? I am siting in a train and he is sting in the rubble of his dreams.
My "bad days" are his wildest dreams.
My "burnout" is a luxury he can't afford because his only job is staying alive.
It's geographical luck and it's a haunting injustice that we all refuse to acknowledge and look away

[Asanwa.sol @Chizitere_xyz]

You cannot aggressively demand "princess treatment" and a traditional provider man while simultaneously having the mouth, attitude, and combativeness of a fiercely independent street-fighter. Traditional men want peace and cooperation. You cannot ask a man to pay 100% of the bills and lead the household, and then constantly argue with him and challenge his decisions like you are roommates splitting the rent. You have to pick a dynamic.