there's no right way to do shit. but there's always a kinder way. i lean toward kindness whenever possible and prefer to keep my distance when that is not an option .
It’s telling when someone can’t stand alone. Their identity be so tied to that relationship, that friendship, or that job. No wonder people crumble if a reset button is hit. They can’t fathom being alone and working on themselves
You will always be the villain in an entitled persons story. Some people can’t tell the difference between being harmed and being denied. They receive your boundaries as an act of cruelty and your refusal to drop everything for them as a personal attack. They resent the discovery that your life does not belong to them.
At this big age when people show signs of hidden animosity or weird energy, I just remove myself. I’m not trying to understand you and I’m not trying to make it make sense
Good people have high levels of empathy, but once that empathy is exhausted, they switch to a state of objective observation. They see you for exactly who you are, without the filter of their love. This is why their anger feels so cold, it is the absence of the warmth you took for granted
People that think I’m super nice and non confrontational don’t understand that it’s because I like them and they haven’t done anything to warrant any other treatment and as long as they stay there, they’ll never know any other version of me. So much so that if someone told them a story of my madness, they’d call that person a liar.
my best friend can't afford a dentist right now so she scrolled hinge until she matched with a dental hygienist and asked him what toothpaste to use. he said anything with at least 10% nano-hydroxyapatite. she didn't even go on the date. just screenshot the message and unmatched. queen behavior
random piece of advice for u all is to be very wary of befriending people who admire u to the point of putting u on a pedestal bc eventually that admiration will turn into resentment and animosity
Notice how people who talk to much never wanna listen to you talk or learn anything about you. It’s always just me me me me me me with them, while never even saying anything interesting & always telling the same stories over and over because they’re stuck in a time loop of themselves.
I’m never actively judging ppl I love so it can take a longggg time to realize how weird ppl can be if it’s subtle bc I show up w love & support. but once it becomes clear, I have to cut ties. then I start retroactively thinking & it’s unsettling how many signs were there.
painful truth: u MUST develop a strong opinion of yourself, because if u don't, somebody else will do it for u. and trust me... some ppl will reduce your entire existence to their mood, their jealousy, their insecurity, or one mistake u made three years ago. don't let strangers become the author of your identity. damn...jeeezzz .
Even platonically, I love intensely. Intimacy is not reserved for romance. I will always respect people's boundaries, but I think a lot of people are taken back because they've never been loved for the sake of being loved. I don't want anything. I just really love my friends.
You suffer because you try too hard to control. You cling to people, outcomes, ideas about yourself. You take it all so seriously and it makes you anxious and stressed. Release and let go. Live life the way you would hold sand. Not with a closed fist, but an open palm.
You want to get your hair done? Nails done? New outfits/wardrobe? Activities that bring you pleasure? Just all around Venusian energy?
Talk with the ancestor who is obsessed with beauty, glamour and creativity. Thank me later!
When someone starts giving off weird energy that I can’t socially make sense of (even if its kind or subtle), I begin distancing myself from them. I’ve come to take this as a tell for manipulation. Ppl who are lowkey threatened will try to chip away at you via subtle gaslighting
@lettersfromjuno I had a hg who would nitpick every facet of my life but she was on hush mouth with her faves so it wasn't my choices she disliked it was me LMAOOOOO