A healing stage is disgust. Yes, disgust. You will be DISGUSTED by the people whose love you seeked. You will feel embarrassed about the choices you made and the people who had access to you who didn’t deserve it. Feel this feeling then let it go.
That will NEVER be you again.
To all my people pleasers out there:
When you're finally done trying for the impossible and have exhausted all your efforts, know that you did the best you could. It's not your fault.