unfortunately, i don't like nonchalant men. Be dominant, check on me. Be affectionate. Tell me im gorgeous. Plan dates. Buy me flowers. Be absolutely obsessed with me.
I don’t want a soft life because I’m lazy ! I want a soft life because I’ve spent most of my life in survival mode ! My nervous system has been in fight or flight since childhood & now I’m choosing peace, softness & stability !
& another thing I will no longer be choosing the high road. I can cuss you the fuck out & still go back to being at peace. I’m not internalizing NOTHING!
Unfortunately, yes i sure DO give up on people.. you can't continuously disappoint me, distract me, not pour into me & expect me to continue showing up for you. No can do.
No We can’t date casually. No We can’t casually have sex. There’s nothing casual about being in my space. I’m a real lover. There is nothing casual about my intimacy. There is nothing casual about my heart.