For a while, she thought things might change. They didn’t.
She had a miscarriage.
Instead of comforting her, her husband accused her of killing his child.
He said she didn’t take care of herself properly and that she was responsible for what happened.
He beat her badly that day.
Maryam later told her father what happened.
Her father spoke to the man.
But after the man explained his own side, her father told Maryam that she should stop making everything look worse than it was.
That wasn’t the first time her father took his friend’s side.
He still told her to respect her husband.
That was when she stopped expecting her father to save her.
She also discovered that the man wasn’t who she thought he was before the marriage.
He didn’t pray.
He wasn’t practising Islam or Christianity.
He had his own beliefs and was involved in idol worship.
There were things he did privately that scared her, and whenever she asked questions, he would tell her that it was none of her business.
She became afraid of him in a way that went beyond the beating.
Her mother knew most of what was happening, but she kept telling Maryam to endure.
Her father was even worse because he kept reminding her that the man was his friend and that she needed to respect him.
Maryam had nowhere to go.
So she stayed.
Until one night, the night everything ended, his money went missing.
Tomorrow is Girl Friends Day.
If you're a guy, e no concern you. It is a day for women to celebrate friendship with each other. Let them buy gifts for themselves to celebrate their friendship.
Don't go and insert yourself inside. Any babe that expects gift from you, hates you.
This life is funny. It is good to put privilege into context.
Some of you have never entered Danfo before because your parents' driver drive you around, while others have to jump buses with their parents and even lap their younger one so the fare would suffice.
Some of you don't know what it means for school fees to not be paid. You just find yourself going to school whenever school resumes and then vacation to London in summer. Others have to be embarrassed in the presence of their friends and watch their parents continually beg the principal for grace time.
Se of you know where your future is headed even in SS1. Your parents have told you that you're going to Covenant for your first degree, after which you get a Masters at the London School of Economics. Others have to first focus on the cheapest school and catchment area to increase their chances of admission and actually staying in school.
Some of you get up to N300k monthly as allowance while other get N20k and "remember the child of whom you are, remember the home you come from."
Some of you can afford to fail. There is financial might to back you up. If you fail, you try again. You can even try something else, and it would be funded. Others cannot afford to fail. They need to succeed at all cost to break the cycle of poverty. They also have siblings looking up to them because investment in you means taking over your parents' responsibility to help with your siblings' welfare.
Privileges blinds because it is the nature of privileges to blind.
- Chimamanda Adichie
You'll not understand poverty if you've never lived it.
Poor men are insecure ✅️
Single mothers do not love you ❌️
Poor men are toxic✅️
Single mothers are toxic ❌️
Single mothers are faultless in being single mothers ✅️
Poor men are faultless in being poor ❌️ (where were you when your mates were making money?)
I hate how you people talk about Single mothers as if you're perfect. ✅️
I hate how you people talk about broke men ❌️ (even though you're Poor and your parents are poor)
Continue shaming Single mothers until life happens to you. ✅️
Continue shaming poor men until life happens to you ❌️ (you know life can never happen to you as na you dey control universe)
How hard is it to extend grace across board? It is only when chooku chooku chook you, that you remember grace. Even some of these men that easily talk down on broke men are being gracious to single mom. Is grace that hard to spread across board? No! You know exactly what you're doing.
As a woman, I cannot settle with a broke man. I deserve better. You people are obsessed with poverty. I need to give my kids better footing.
As a man, I cannot grind to make money and settle with a single mother. A man starts a family, not join one.
If you understand one but don't understand the other, God will take you 🙏🏾
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