I feel like @BNXN has been singing about the SAME girl across his last few drops and nobody is talking about it 😭😂
Because tell me why I’ve been listening to these songs back to back and suddenly the storyline is starting to feel connected:
“Rum & Soda” → “Emotional High” → “Frank Sinatra” → “Back Outside” → “16”
You actually have to PAY ATTENTION to the lyrics because there’s a very interesting relationship arc hiding in there.
Let’s start with “Rum & Soda.”
This guy is clearly jealous. He’s watching the girl with another guy, basically thinking, “it should have been me, not the other.” He’s even bothered by the fact that she’s showing the new guy things that used to belong to their relationship.
That song sounds like someone who hasn’t emotionally let go yet.
Then comes “Emotional High”
Now he’s talking about being completely emotionally exposed to this person. He’s hoping that he’s still important to her, while simultaneously acknowledging that “nothing lasts forever” and that things won’t remain the same….which sounds very much like the relationship is already becoming unstable.
Then “Frank Sinatra”
This is where the relationship starts sounding exhausting.
He’s questioning whether all the effort he has put into this relationship is even worth it. He’s frustrated by the mixed signals, the arguments, the double standards and the fact that he feels like he’s giving more than he’s receiving.
So at this point, the emotional progression is basically:
jealousy → attachment → uncertainty → frustration.
And THEN we get “Back Outside”
This one is where I started paying attention
He’s asking where she’s going for summer, whether she’s in Marbella, when she’s coming back to Lagos, who is going to sort her pickup and who is waiting for her in Lagos.
And that whole “Back Outside” theme starts feeling different when you put it beside the other songs.
He says he was laying low because he was working, while she was “out chasing a rainbow.”
It almost sounds like two people who are no longer moving in the same direction.
And then…
“16.”
“You don fly go Paris / You don leave me for Lagos / And do you expect me to move on…”
So in “Back Outside” Anjola is travelling and he’s asking when she’s coming back to Lagos.
Now in “16,” the woman has actually flown out and left him in Lagos.
And immediately after talking about her leaving, he switches into:
“sexy girls dey my city, Eko…”
Which makes the whole “Still In Charge” thing sound even more interesting.
It feels like he’s trying to convince himself that he has moved on and that Lagos is full of women, while simultaneously addressing the fact that the particular woman he actually wants is somewhere in Paris. 😭
And that’s why I’m starting to wonder if these songs are telling one long story.
Not necessarily that every song is literally about the same woman, we obviously don’t know that but the recurring themes are too interesting to ignore:
Rum & Soda:
“I want you, but you’re with somebody else.”
Emotional High:
“I’m deeply attached to you, but I know this may not last.”
Frank Sinatra:
“I’m putting in all this effort and questioning whether this relationship even makes sense.”
Back Outside:
“Where is Anjola going? When is she coming back to Lagos? Who is waiting for her?”
16:
“You flew to Paris and left me in Lagos. Do you really expect me to move on?”
THAT is a storyline.
And now I’m wondering if BNXN is slowly building another album around this whole chapter of his life.
So imagine if these recent records are another chapter of that same kind of emotional songwriting…
Maybe we’re listening to the “Sincerely, Benson: Part 2” storyline without even realizing it. 😂
BNXN, who is Anjola??? 😂😭
You can’t convince me life is just a series of coincidences. What do you mean Lionel Messi was randomly paired with a five-month-old baby after the baby’s family won a UNICEF raffle for a charity photoshoot while Messi played for Barcelona… and that baby grew up to be Lamine Yamal?
Lamine would go on to become one of the brightest young stars in soccer, wear the same No. 19 Messi wore for the same team when that photo was taken, and now, nearly two decades later, could face Messi in a World Cup Final???????
Facts about men that don’t like birthdays:
- They are low maintenance
- They like being alone
- They’re used to making themselves happy
- They measure life in progress and not dates.
- They pour into others more than they receive.
- They don’t like drama.
I watched a guy on the bus today. 6:45 AM in the morning while jogging, His eyes looked heavy, like he was carrying the weight of an entire lineage on his shoulders. But immediately he sat down, he brought out his phone and started scrolling TikTok.
As a Biomedical Engineer, I wanted to snatch that phone from his hand.
See, let me tell you the bitter truth nobody wants to hear.
Most of you are not lazy or "unlucky." You are chemically sabotaging your own destiny before you even brush your teeth.
The first 60 minutes of your day is a war zone. Your brain is begging for direction. It runs on dopamine, that’s the fuel for your motivation. But what do you do?
You wake up. Your eyes haven't even adjusted to the darkness of your room, and gbam, you pick up your phone.
You check WhatsApp to see who ignored you. You check X to see who is fighting. You check Instagram to see your mates buying cars you can't afford yet.
You think you are just "waking up," but scientifically? You are flooding your brain with cheap, unearned dopamine. You are frying your reward system. By 8 AM, your brain is already tired. It has consumed "content" but produced nothing.
And let me speak to the men for a second.
I write about men a lot because I see what you go through. The pressure is much. You wake up and the first thought is Rent, School fees, the woman you want to impress.
It is terrifying.
So, you grab your phone to escape. The phone is your pacifier. It numbs the panic of the morning. But that comfort is a lie.
When you start your day with cheap dopamine, actual work feels like torture. You have programmed your neurochemistry to be a consumer, not a king.
You are training your brain to be weak in a world that eats weak men for breakfast.
Here is the hard truth (and you can drag me if you like):
Your morning mood doesn’t determine how your day goes. It determines your capacity to suffer for your success.
If you can’t survive the first hour of the day without a screen, how do you want to survive the economy?
Protect your first hour.
Don't touch that phone.
Stare at the ceiling. Pray. Do pushups. Go for a morning jug or walk.
Let your brain starve for a bit so it learns to hunt for the hard things.
Stop feeding your destiny to the algorithm.
It is not witchcraft, it’s what psychologists call cognitive dissonance reduction. It’s a defense mechanism.
You apply for a job in Google. You don’t get it. So you move to dismiss Google as overrated anyway or assume those who got it had connections or just lucky. You are wrong but your ego is protected. Quite natural.
This is the classic “sour grapes” of Aesop’s fables from 2,500 years ago.
In the fable, a hungry fox sees a bunch of ripe, juicy grapes hanging from a vine. He jumps once… misses. Jumps again… misses. After several failed attempts, he finally walks away and mutters:
“Those grapes were probably sour anyway.”
When next you see people dismiss something that is obviously desirable: a First Class, marriage, rich parents, whatever, just know you are seeing the latest example of “sour grapes” in action.
The alternative for them would be depression.