the worst advice you can take is to “keep your relationship issues away from your friends” abusers love it when you don’t have a strong sense of sisterhood and they can get away with abusing you in private. tell your friends, tell them everything that makes you uncomfortable!!!!
is reading a book in public performative... is having a boyfriend embarrassing... all of these queries were sufficiently addressed by our patron saint jemima kirke when she said "i think you guys might be thinking about yourself too much"