Normalise shaming and making people feel uncomfortable. Your married brother brings his side piece to the bbq, Y’all need to say something. If your homie isn’t taking care of his kids, say something/cut them off. We can’t be enabling such poor behaviour.
I cut friends off for not being as good of a friend to me as I was to them. I would've never put u in a situation to make y'all feel how I felt. I'm good to all my friends but I know when the energy is not returned... I'm a good friend, not a stupid friend. Let that sink in.