There are 3 things that need to be said about trying to get your identity from your children:
1. It is a very natural thing to do, and a very hard thing to fight. In fact, probably every parent falls into this trap in some way, most times without even knowing it.
2. Parenting is a miserable place to look for identity. Think about it: you are parenting lost, rebellious, foolish, blind, self-ruling sinners. I'm not picking on your children. I have just described every fallen human being born into God's world.
3. It's a crushing burden for your children to have to get up every morning and carry the heavy load of your identity and all the expectations and demands that flow from it. No child will carry that load well.
We all should ask, “What must I do to be saved?”
We should also ask, “What must I do 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 I’m saved?”
But we should never ask, “What can I do and 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 be saved?”
So much of the Christian life can be boiled down to two simple truths.
1. You are no longer your own. You belong to Christ.
2. You are no longer 𝘰𝘯 your own. He gave you the church.
“The gospel is not our product; the church is not our organization. The Lord Himself comes to do what only He can do. We are servants, not entrepreneurs.”
- Edmund Clowney
The desire to be known and loved without having to perform or put on a mask is one of the most universal longings there is. That longing isn't a flaw at all, but rather a sign that you are alive to how God has created you.
I don't know about you, but I find that during phases of spiritual dehydration, the night is the hardest part of the day. It's probably because I don't have any activities to distract my brain; I'm forced to lie in bed and think about all the different elements that are contributing to my depression.
What should you do during these long and restless nights? The Psalmist tells us - sing!
Comparison is one of joys greatest thieves in adult life. It deceives you into thinking that someone else's life is the standard yours should be measured against, and that you're coming up short.
In this way, comparison lies to you through its cavity-contaminated teeth.