Manda Heart

Jazz / Soul vocalist. Energy producer.

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

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[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

So insane, the dismissal of external validation as a drug when the pursuit & use of it is dangerous enough to take lives, and does kill daily. We must be brave enough to learn our own power and stand in it alone as firmly as we do when someone is looking on.

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

Can you imagine being photographed wearing a fedora and a soul patch in public & still having the audacity to cheat on every woman you ever dated?

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

Yt ppl: honor any ethnic genes you may have by not buying features you were never punished for having. Affiliation isn’t granted just bc it’s unpopular rn to be white & you are unfamiliar with being othered by society. Gracefully allow the world to change by taking your seat.

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

In my attempt to manage my unhealthy habit of dating men much older and much less self-aware than me, I implemented this rule:

“Never be a choice inspired by someone’s mid-life crisis."

It's less exciting, but it's working. Haven’t had my life ruined in over a year.

[Theo Von @TheoVon]

Middleweight Champ

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

I wish the dreams would stop. I need a break.

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

“They keep destroying that which could support their healing process.
…
They destroy that relationship which could offer them the guidance in towards healing. It’s a long process process of building a lot of trust.” - Dr Scott Lyons

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

An intellectual title for being strung along, breadcrumbing, the push / pull dynamic in romantic relationships is “intermittent reinforcement”. What you’re feeling is not hot chemistry; it’s a trigger for addiction to non-tangible drugs, which you create within your own brain.

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

Natural spaces - where love happens without costume. Not if, but when he becomes uneasy there, he is done being seen. Done seeing you. Let him be alone with the ghost of his undead mother. In staying, you become their sexy little shadow. It is cold there.

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

A man with a bad dating history doesn’t treat you well bc you’re the one he’s been waiting for, you haven’t suddenly inspired him to be emotionally responsible - that would be an intentional practice. That kind of person only intentionally practices more effective manipulation.

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

People who tell you the reason they do the hurtful things they do is because “life is short”, are more than comfortable to let you waste yours on them. Leave them first.

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

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[Bailey Sarian @BaileySarian]

Hey. How are you. How’s it going. Here’s me. It was cold.

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

I'm too aloof to know when people are trying to inspire behavioral results from me. It sucks lol. I really need them to tell me what they want bc I if I allow myself to, I will overthink all of the possibilities & choose the
wrong one anyway.

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

This is why you won’t catch me talking about my dad in a bar. I will, however, be here to listen if you’d like to talk about your dad 😂

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

And this, on challenging a mentality of victimhood. #growup

[Manda Heart @manderswanders]

3/31 was a good day - 3.5 months after he
blew it up, I can truly say l've let go - in my
own time, just as I told him it would be. Initially
I felt like I was gonna fucking fall apart. But
the peace I feel shows me that being with him
is what falling apart actually feels like.