YouTubers be like “wake up at 4am and run, that’s alpha!” No, it’s not. Look at apex predators; they’re all lazy. Bears hibernate, lions sleep all day. You know who wakes up at 4am and runs? Squirrels.
My daughter caught the surgical team marking her right knee when the surgery was scheduled for her left.
ACL repair, pretty routine. She's on the table, already sedated but still conscious. Surgeon comes in with a marker to indicate the surgical site.
Starts drawing on her right knee.
My daughter, groggy but aware: "That's the wrong knee."
Surgeon looks up. "What?"
"Left knee. ACL tear is in my left knee."
Surgeon checks the chart. Confusion on his face. Checks again.
"The consent form says right knee."
My daughter tries to sit up against the restraints. "The consent form is wrong. The MRI, the physical therapy, everything has been for my LEFT knee."
Nurse jumps in, checking the computer. "Doctor, the imaging is all left knee. The PT notes say left. The orthopedic consult says left."
Surgeon looks at the consent form again. "But you signed this saying right knee."
"Because I trusted you to give me the right form! My LEFT knee is the one that's injured!"
Room goes quiet. Anesthesiologist stops prep. Everyone's looking at each other.
Surgeon finally calls timeout. "Let me verify the imaging."
Takes fifteen minutes. Comes back. "You're correct. The consent form was filled out wrong. We'll need to redo the paperwork."
My daughter refused to proceed that day. Made them reschedule, triple-check everything, and have the orthopedic surgeon who did her initial consult verify before she'd come back.
Surgery happened two weeks later. Different surgical team. She made them show her the imaging and consent form before allowing any sedation.
Got a call from hospital risk management apologizing for the "clerical error."
Clerical error. They almost operated on the wrong body part.
She left a detailed review. Hospital never publicly responded.
Staring at your scars, analyzing who hurt you, & nursing your wounds can easily transform from a necessary healing phase into a comfortable trap of permanent victimhood.
The world does not halt its clock, lower its prices, or stabilize its currency out of sympathy for your pain.
I can tell you I like women with big boobs today and you see me with one with small boobs tomorrow or I tell you it’s women with big bumbum and you see me with the opposite.
My real spec is a woman who likes me and treats me right.
That’s the only criterion that never changes.
We act like a world-class consultant for a friend's relationship or career drama, but transform into a panicked, defensive mess the second the exact same challenge hits our own life.
@a4lasade You did everything wrong. You’re an adult, he is an adult, she’s not his “guardian”, heck! he doesn’t even need one. If he said something inappropriate to you (which he didn’t), you could have simply shun him. Keep screenshots incase you ever need to explain the encounter.
Early this morning, I saw my neighbour dancing in his corridor while his pregnant wife watched him with a smile.
He's not the type who likes dancing, nor does he know how to dance.
I laughed as I walked past them.
Later, I saw him fetching water from the tap, and I jokingly told him that I dance better than he does.
He hissed and said, "Bro, my wife said the baby in her womb wanted me to dance."😂