Man Versus Rape

Countering rape culture with self-control, consent and respect for right of sexual refusal.

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To whom it may concern.

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When will men's voices be as loud as women's voices in the fight against sexual abuse?

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@NN4MD1 If your penis is a self-governing organ, you should be worried. You may well be a ticking time bomb.

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Penises Are Not Independent https://t.co/S8WExepgeY

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No one is your slave.

You have no rights to a body that isn't yours.

Stop the manipulation.

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Consent to have sex isn't consent to shove your penis in an unusual place, hurt your sex partner intentionally or force anything.

Ask permission and accept whatever response you get.

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I was harassed.

"Hmm, what were you wearing?"

My boss touched me funny.

"Hmm, you must have been inviting."

I was raped at a party.

"Hmm, were you drunk?"

Just stop.

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The quality of sexual consent and the context in which it is 'given' are as important as consent itself.

If the judgement of the person you're seeking sexual consent from has been compromised (by drugs or alcohol, for example), walk away quickly.

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The tip, the shaft, the testicles.

Keep all parts of your penis to yourself when she says no.

The next wrong move will make you a rapist.

PS. Just to be safe, keep your hands to yourself too.

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Sex workers don't deserve less than anyone else.

Their rights to their bodies apply, your entitlement doesn't.

Your money isn't worth their dignity.

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Begging for it is not a good look.

Coercion and manipulation are wrong.

Demanding for it is abuse.

And forcing it is you at your worst.

Always accept refusal.

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If it's not consensual from the beginning, don't do it.

Don't push, don't pull, don't try to convince.

If there's willingness, you'll know.

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People are free to reject you.

Forget your expectations, you have no say in how they choose to react.

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You're not the lord of anyone and no one's body is yours to command.

Women are not your subjects, neither are other men.

Ask politely and respect the freedom of choice.

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Impulses can be controlled.

Brain over penis.

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Spouses do not have unlimited access to each other's bodies.

They retain the right to refuse sex whenever they choose to.

And if you're considering getting married so you can "have sex anytime," think again. The decision to have sex will never be yours alone to take.

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A letter of employment doesn't give you the right to touch your staff inappropriately.

No lingering handshakes, no shoulder squeezes, no forced hugs and definitely no butt taps.

Keep your hands to yourself.

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When you mock a rape victim or blame them for the crime, you're no better than the rapist.

You're reinforcing the trauma, breaking their spirit and making it harder for other victims to find the courage to speak up.

Wise up and shut up.

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1. What you call 'indecent dressing' is not an excuse for rape.

2. There's no such thing as being "dressed to prevent rape."

3. And modesty? It varies from person to person.

Leave their clothes alone and focus on your self-control.

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'No' is not an invitation to try harder.

It won't magically change to 'yes'.

Accept refusal and stop.