MDug

Social Changer. Opinions are just mine. CSA and SEND advocate

[Steven A Drizin @SDrizin]

Wishing the best of luck to Raymond Santana, one of the Exonerated (formerly Central Park) 5 in his run for NYC City Council. If he wins. he will join fellow exoneree Yusef Salaam on the Council. https://t.co/9brhkjn2lL

[Doctors of the World @DOTW_UK]

PETITION 🚨 We are asking for a lift to the USAID freeze, or at least, an exemption for humanitarian aid.

Many of our aid operations have been forced to shut down, leaving thousands of our patients at grave risk.

We are fighting to reverse this & continue critical aid efforts.

[MDug @margedouglas]

Every woman you know has taken a longer route.
Has doubled back on herself.
Has pretended to dawdle by a shop window.
Has held her keys in her hand.
Has made a fake phone call.
Has rounded a corner and run.
Every woman you know has walked home scared.
Every woman you know.

[Chris Packham @ChrisGPackham]

“Here we are in 2024, in the British countryside, with people riding out with a pack of hounds to hopefully, from their perspective, tear a fox to pieces for fun — you couldn’t make it up !”

@MeganMcCubbin | #RealBanNow

[Armando Iannucci @Aiannucci]

Today, we are ALL middle-class women of a certain age.

[MDug @margedouglas]

@UniofOxford the arrangement you have with @pearson to fulfil your bookings for assessments is a waking nightmare. Outsourced and hopeless. Hours on a line for my SEND kid and comply contrary information everywhere we turn. Who can I talk to for help

[MDug @margedouglas]

@pearson Maybe reinvest is better customer service with all that profit. Your service for @UniofOxford assessments is up there with the most excruciating of all times, a classic example of outsourcing gone wrong. Hours spent on the phone with every call giving conflicting information

[MDug @margedouglas]

@PearsonEdexcel @pearson Your service for @UniofOxford assessments is right up there with the most excruciating of all times, a classic example of outsourcing gone wrong. Hours and hours spent on the phone with every single call giving conflicting information. HELP!!!

[Sophie Wilkinson @sophwilkinson]

Questions I have re Huw Edwards

1. What did BBC know and when
2. How much did they pay him after knowing what they knew
3. Who is the adult man who sent him the images and will he face prosecution
4. Who else has been affected by Edwards’ contempt for morality and decency

[Dr Shola Mos-Shogbamimu @SholaMos1]

This is what a cosseted vile child sexual abuse pedophile looks like. Huw Edwards is GUILTY of making 41 indecent images of children est. age 13 - 15, but one aged 7 to 9 yet some humanise him with 'vulnerability of his mental health'. Excusing his criminality. His 'mental health' didn't affect his BBC top job or sexual preferences of young children.

[MDug @margedouglas]

@JerryHicksUnite Wow

[Tansu Yegen @TansuYegen]

Phone addiction - Simon Sinek👏👏👏

[London & UK Street News @CrimeLdn]

Only in England. The 47 bus to Bellingham getting serious love after last night’s win 😂👌

CC: @lennylevent

[Dr. Jessica Taylor @DrJessTaylor]

I thought I could share some of my best advice and tips I have learned as the years have gone on, to help others who would like to adopt anti-pathology, trauma-informed parenting like I have.

It doesn’t matter if your kid is 2 months old or 12 years old, you can apply these 50 principles and approaches, and you will see a totally different way of parenting.

Are we ready?

Okay, let’s do this.

50 anti-pathology, trauma-informed parenting tips, and the first one is huge.

1. You must apologise to your children if you get something wrong, or if you overreact.

A pretty simple one here, but you are not perfect, and neither are they. They need to learn that you respect them enough to admit you did something wrong, and that you can apologise to them. This will role model to them how to do this, when to do this, and why to do this. It should also mean that they have the confidence in future to tell you when you’re in the wrong and need to reflect.

2. Pay attention to your kids’ personality and the way they process conflict.

Some kids will go silent, some kids will sob, some kids will disassociate, some kids will lie, some kids will appease you, some kids will blame everyone else. Pay attention, and learn how they respond. Watch their body language, eye contact, facial expressions, hand gestures. Talk to your kids about how they deal with conflict. If you’re feeling particularly brave, you need to ask them if you intimidate them or if you need to approach a situation better in future.

3. Do not force your children to answer you.

Lots of kids become so frightened when they are being told off that they simply go silent. They don’t or can’t talk. Do not force or count down to answers. Do not yell at them, ‘answer me!’ Do not punish them for ‘ignoring you’. The likelihood is, you’ve lost control, you’ve scared them, and now they don’t know what to do or say. They freeze, and you are responsible for that. Even if your child has done something pretty terrible, there are still ways of having that conversation safely that don’t cause them to shut down.

4. Do not bully or intimidate your children.

This one should be obvious but I guarantee you that you are harming them significantly. As in, life-changing trauma. As in, one day they’ll be in therapy, crying about the things you did and said to them, and how they can’t get over the abusive childhood. Your children deserve safety and love. If you are reading this and know you lose control and intimidate your kids or bully them, get help immediately. This is on you.

5. Recognise when you are getting angry, and diffuse.

Look, life is hard, and then when you throw in parenting kids on top, you’re eventually going to lose your patience. However, if you are dealing with a situation with your kid and you start to feel anger rising inside of you, step away immediately and diffuse. Whether it’s ‘mummy is going to walk away now for a moment’ or it’s ‘this situation is escalating and I think we both need to take 15 minutes and come back to this’. You need to control your own anger, and you need to role model how to do this yourself. Walk away. Always.

6. Teach them that lying will always get them in more trouble than being honest.

Your kids will go through multiple lying phases. Psychological theory suggests that this is because they are learning new cognitive and social skills. They learn to lie and manipulate, and so they use it. This happens frequently between 3-5 years old, then again maybe between 8-11 years old. You may have one more spurt of it in teen years but it should be going away by then (unless it’s become a coping mechanism). Always encourage the truth and reward it. Stick to your words, if you tell them that telling the truth will be better, don’t kick off when they tell the truth.

[MDug @margedouglas]

@JamesTCobbler Add on phone repairs?

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[Giorgi Revishvili @revishvilig]

Last 20 days in Georgia 🇬🇪

#NoToRussianLaw #GeorgiaProtests

[Giorgi Revishvili @revishvilig]

Absolute goosebumps!

A protester performs Ave Maria in front of the Kashveti Church in Tbilisi as people celebrate Easter.

Georgia belongs in the European Union 🇬🇪🇪🇺

📸Gvantsa Chkheidze

[Alexander Kavtaradze @alexkavtaradze_]

Rugby is our game and we shall win this game as well and they will write about our victory in history books! 🇬🇪🇪🇺

🎥: Givi Ashortia

[Giorgi Revishvili @revishvilig]

The is Georgia - the country of free people 🇬🇪🇪🇺