Okay lemme elaborate for the youngins who follow me. Long read but I’ll address how it affects both.
A woman who really likes you is wrapped around your thumb, she’s attuned to your mood; your laughter, frowns, fears etc matter to her sm, she wants you to talk to her, she’s upset by your silent treatment because she GAF, so at first she’s very worried, trying to placate you, but if it becomes “PROLONGED”, she eventually tires out and gets used to it.
That face that lights up at the thought of opening the door to you suddenly stays fixated on her phone no matter how much noise you make when opening the door, she’s literally not even looking at your face anymore, you bang doors, go out at night, make shady calls to make her jealous etc but she’s literally gotten used to it.
She’s not angry or sad, she’s just used to the New Normal. You realize you’ve lost that respect, adulation, excitement and now need to work 10x harder than Vinicius Jr to win it back.
That is why you should not fuck with things or people you don’t want to lose, save your “hardman” & “idgaf” for stuff you actually don’t mind losing.
And oh on your side; prolonged silent treatment increases the likelihood of resentment, the fuel that helps keep your affection burning is no longer there so each day dawns with her nearing “roommate” status in your head.
It’s such a lose-lose endeavor for both parties, I do not recommend. From experience I now recommend talking & quickly resolving things like motherfuckin adults.
Here's something most people don't understand about narcissists. They don't reward loyalty. They exploit it. And the person who gives them the most love, the most patience, the most second chances? That's the person they'll hurt the most.
You can't mistreat people and then act like they betrayed you. That's delusional. You can’t disregard someone’s feelings, take their kindness for weakness, or constantly put them last — and then be surprised when they finally choose to walk away. People may stay silent for a while, they may endure more than they should, but everyone has a breaking point. Loyalty doesn’t mean accepting abuse, and love doesn’t mean tolerating disrespect.
You don’t get to lie, manipulate, ignore, or belittle someone, and then play the victim when they no longer trust you. You don’t get to treat people as if they’re disposable and then be confused when they no longer make you a priority. Relationships — whether friendships, family bonds, or romantic connections — are built on mutual respect, effort, and understanding. Without those, they crumble, not because someone gave up, but because someone got tired of being hurt.
Sometimes I remember something embarrassing that happened to me and my mouth reflexively lets out a random sound, and apparently this happens because the brain can’t tell the diff between real-time embarrassment and remembered embarrassment, so it produces a mini stress response.
The thing about materialists is they can't help but filter every opportunity, interaction, relationship, or decision via that money-speckled lens, and they assume everyone is that way, too.
God! I want more!
I’ve grown too comfortable in my comfort.
I need more.
Show me how bountiful it can be.
I’m not lazy, just give me a direction to follow.
I need an overflow of income, Lord.
Lead me to it.
a lesson i learned this year is that a person's capacity for growth is directly linked to how much truth they can face about themselves without running away
can't be submissive to a man that doesn't make you feel safe enough to be you. you're constantly in defense mode, your energy is withdrawn, your mind is anxious about what will happen next. there's no compliant heart in that environment, you just grow more indifferent with time