Mark Harper Tyler

Proud husband and dad.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@for_stranger @bluewmist That is what we did when we got married. My wife kept her last name and I took it.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@xana37 Powerful!

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@ona_nky I did.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@txsalth2o Yes, that is one of the options. Although between us, was there really much to choose from? Tyler versus Harper. Lol. Also, to describe the one who retains their surname as the winner stings a little bit, but you know what, lots of truth to that.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@kaitybella @midaeros I have been a SAHD for about 12 years and you really accurately describe the challenges and the dilemma.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@EditrixLane @emilykmay In that system, it would be a man's option to change his name at marriage or to keep it.

This would seem absurd to many, but I believe it is more sensible than what we have now.

The main reason why we have now what we have now is simple inertia.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@EditrixLane @emilykmay I concluded that, if we were starting from scratch, it would be more sensible for children to take the mother's last name. This is because there is no doubt who a child's mother is and because mothers carry and birth the child, and are largely responsible for childcare....

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@EditrixLane @emilykmay Correct. AutoCorrect has a mind of its own, if you want to call it that.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@EditrixLane @emilykmay I agree. All of these titles. Secretary. Ambassador. Senator. Congresswoman. All of them.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@EditrixLane @emilykmay Autocorrect causes many problems.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@EditrixLane @emilykmay Yes. I realize that several countries still have monarchy, but the concept offends me, as an American.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@EditrixLane @emilykmay Irritates me also. I forget who it was, there was a political commentator who pointed this out several years back. He made this exact point, criticizing this proliferation of titles.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

Thank you again. I appreciate you taking out the time to let me know that. So often it seems like the Internet is filled with darkness and sadness. So it's a real lift when I run across somebody like you. I hope that you have a good evening. Well, it's evening here. I hope that wherever you are, it's good. 😊

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@EditrixLane @emilykmay Thank you for the tip!

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@EditrixLane @emilykmay Excellent. Always love these guys. And, yes, sounding snobbish was at least a partial reason for not using my middle name anymore in normal conversation or life.

[Mark Harper Tyler @markhtyler59]

@EditrixLane @emilykmay Yes. Definitely. And the longer the names, the more snobbish it sounds. If I had hyphenated, it would have been Harper-Tyler. Not the worst thing in the world but still a mouthful.