Mark Tyrrell

Therapist & trainer since 1995.
Brief, solution focused therapy.
What actually works in the therapy room.
Co-founder Uncommon Knowledge & Hypnosis Downloads

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We expect 'experts' to have answers. But of course, no expert is required to give an immediate and absolute answer. Truth isn't always hurried, and sometimes we need to watch it emerge in its own time.

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Attempts to encourage speech are usually counterproductive in a child with selective mutism. Instead, progress begins when the child feels understood rather than pushed, safe rather than watched, and accepted whether they speak or not. https://t.co/jsvoxjUuV0

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"Metaphors have a way of holding the most truth in the least space." - Orson Scott Card

All clients talk in metaphors, and sometimes the metaphors they use help us understand what they might need – if we are careful enough to notice them. New blog:
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Stories have a way of being delightfully respectful while containing layers of meaning. They don't tell a client they are wrong to feel the way they do but they can open up doors of possibility for feeling more hopeful. https://t.co/gG4CWBqyvc

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While empathy is a strength, it can become a liability when it enables abuse. Therapists can help clients separate explanation from justification. This clarity prevents clients from colluding in their own mistreatment.

Read my latest article on my blog: https://t.co/yi3MyW8dMm

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Kindness in health care begins with listening, because when providers truly hear patients and one another, it leads to better decisions, stronger relationships, and more humane care.
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In healthy dynamics, love and protection equip someone to leave and face the world, but in the devouring mother pattern, they unintentionally become tools to prevent them from doing so.

I've included a video version of this week's article here:
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When working with people who've had terrible childhoods, we need to locate their personal strengths and resources. We can ask how, despite what happened to them, they still managed to find success and some fulfilment in the world.

👇 Video case review https://t.co/UHskboNvVg

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We have to let others take responsibility for themselves, even young people. To greedily take more of our fair share of the 'blame pie' is to deny others a chance to grow and thrive. https://t.co/ihaYl4wawb

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If you get too hung up on wanting 'a relationship' as a general idea, you may fall into the trap of flinging yourself at the first vaguely available (or not!) creature to enter the room. https://t.co/wA6E1oClAc

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In this week's Clear Thinking I give you 5 actionable tips to help you help your low confidence clients overcome the anguish of chronic self doubt.

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Sometimes FOMO is a question of missing out not so much on things we care about, but on things we feel we are supposed to care about. Instead of asking 'What am I missing?', ask 'What truly matters to me?'

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In the same way that ultra-processed food offers the illusion of nourishment while quietly eroding the body and mind, modern life often serves up a highly engineered version of human experience: convenient, addictive, and hollow.
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Truly confident people aren't the ones who know for sure they'll succeed; they're the ones who know they'll handle failure if it happens.
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Wanting something from someone who doesn’t have it within their capacity to GIVE you what you want from them is, of course, a losing game.
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Tall poppy syndrome may not be an official diagnosis, but its emotional impact is real. As therapists, we have the opportunity to challenge the cultural scripts that tell our clients to shrink, apologize, or hide away.
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Chronic people-pleasing, often a manifestation of low self-esteem, blocks honest and open conversation, and that can be a serious problem in therapy. Therapy becomes another performance rather than an authentic endeavour.
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If, by the time we go to bed, we haven't 'used up' our physical and mental energy, we may feel restless and seek out activities (such as scrolling online, watching TV, or even just worrying) that stimulate us even more.

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Strong in-person social networks are associated with lower rates of depression, anxiety, and even dementia, while online 'socializing' without actually meeting up with people may increase loneliness and depression.
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Moderate adversity in middle childhood (ages 6-12) and adolescence may actually promote resilience to anxiety, while too little adversity during some stages of childhood may be associated with long-term anxiety conditions.
https://t.co/9vxRm7GPlE

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