Perhaps this year isn't about becoming anything at all. Maybe instead, it's about slowly unbecoming all the things which no longer align with you, and finding peace in the quiet return to your authentic self.
sorry to break it to you but you literally have to face your fears and slaughter them. otherwise you will live a small life that you do not want. you literally have to view your biggest fears and attack them head on. you have to fall into the abyss to find your way out. the easy path does not exist. there is no get out of jail free card. you have to allow yourself to die a spiritual death over and over again in order to reinvent yourself into the person you are actually supposed to be. and you have to be painfully honest with yourself and the people around you. it’s horrible but it’s truly the only way.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
Go workout. Tell no one.
Go for a run. Tell no one.
Eat clean. Tell no one.
Read a book. Tell no one.
Travel. Tell no one.
Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles.
does anyone else feel randomly guilty for their past even though it's been years and years and you changed and nobody even knows what you did back then but you still feel bad about it for some reason like why does my brain even care at this point i'm being ragebaited by myself
Ages 25–30 are really tough. You’re dealing with a shrinking friend group,aging parents,fixing the financial mistakes from ur early 20s,your career and your health. You’ve gotta find time to heal your mind. You just have to.
You are absorbing more in a single day than your grandparents processed in a month. Notifications, opinions, outrage, disasters, advertisements, noise. Your nervous system was not built for this. The reset you're looking for isn't a supplement or more information. It's a walk without your phone. Dinner with no screen. A bedtime that respects you body. A pause for fresh air, sunshine, and laughter. Log off the internet more often. Your nervous system wasn't built to carry the weight of the whole world all day, every day. When you feel safe within yourself, you help others feel safe too.
this is EXACTLY why i tell people that if you want to meet your bf/gf, go do things alone!!
being with friends creates a social shield. being alone creates an opening and makes you WAY more approachable (and likely TO approach too).
being alone in public is so rare, that simply existing on a park bench by yourself opens a lot more doors than you’d think.
You need to be slowmaxxing. You need to be reading long, fat books. You need to be making 48-hour chocolate chip cookies. You need to spend hours watching wildlife, you need to spend 15+ min making your coffee. You need to breathe in and breathe out. You need to be slowwwwwwwwww.