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[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

Of course, you're a good person, a nice person, you want to be meaningful and helpful to the people in your world.

And yes, you're willing to make sacrifices in service of others, because the last thing you'd want, is to be some selfish bastard who only cares about themselves. I like you already.

But.

That doesn't mean you get to be a martyr.

Because a martyr doesn't just make sacrifices: a martyr sacrifices the self.

And while that might feel really noble and stuff, do please remember that if you have no self, you aren't able to actually help or serve anyone. Besides, you might be able to act like a martyr, but it's very, very very unlikely that you'll actually become one. And I doubt that you would want to, anyway.

This is why I make the distinction between being a nice person, and being a nice guy. It's why I say nice guys need not apply, because I can't help nice guys. I can help nice people, but not nice guys, or nice gals, because nice guys always end up self-sabotaging, and I have no solution for that.

And: being a nice guy means you're a people-pleaser, and that means you're letting your own well-being suffer, which can put you under stress, lead to anxiety and depression, and it usually causes a business to underperform. (Ever noticed that? How people-pleasers tend to be broke? Exactly).

And if you're not doing well, how can you be the best you can be, to the people in your world?

If you're under stress and struggling with money, how can you consistently deliver high quality work for your buyers?

If you don't put on your oxygen mask first, and you end up passed out on the floor of the plane, how are you going to help others get their oxygen mask on?

If you want your business to work, and thrive, now and into the future, you need to protect the asset (i.e. you), so that your asset actually gets to serve people.

So, don't be a nice guy, but be a nice person, instead.

Or, as a friend of mine recently put it:

Get off the cross. We need the wood.

P.s. Agreed? Then how about learning Sales for Nice People?

You can do that here: https://t.co/8eoCr8y5yg

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

@kepano @joodalooped https://t.co/mEfr9DTtwR lets you create rss feeds for lots of sites that don't have one natively.

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

@rohanbabu Confirmation bias. That stuff is EVERYWHERE

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

@benhylak Yes and why are all the bugs tagged won’tfix

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

@kadavy That’s what I meant with my other comment. The fewer times a user comes back, the more the business is at risk.

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

@kadavy Yup. Competition is forcing them to turn into single-user social media platforms.

It’s one of the reasons I’ve stopped using them for anything more than advanced search.

It’s interesting to see a new technology devolve into mediocrity so fast.

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

@fredrivett Oh I have no doubt that you are. But smarterer > cleverer.

[gargi palaskar @gargipalaskar]

i have watched ZERO reels/netflix/youtube/podcasts in 8 days; it’s insane how your phone becomes boring when you actively put in effort to make your real life interesting

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

@jamespotter No dude. @kepano should run Apple. Or at least parts of it. Big parts.

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

Sure, go ahead and invest in outreach, Business Development, networking, content marketing... but don't forget to dig up the opportunities hiding in your network, first. 

Check out the MYNO mini-series here: https://t.co/rrZHmXq42H

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

I miss the days of stock photography.

I so much prefer seeing people who actually are dead inside, instead of people who just look like they are.

[Col Alois Hammer @andyinsdca]

An excellent breakdown of AI art from @Oatmeal (with the killer phrase "emotional nutrition") https://t.co/OYARCKUozO

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

Everything is downstream from your internal state.

Protect it with all your might.

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

You don't have a sales problem: you have a leadership problem.

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

Every machine can be a smoke machine, provided you use it wrong enough.

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

Just like that friend who's always "doing one final rewrite before sending my manuscript to the publisher!".

You don't follow up because you don't want to face the fact that things don't look as rosy as you're hoping?

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

Niching down?

Aim narrow, welcome wide.

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

You can tell yourself stories about how likely all those deals are to close until your bankrupt - and if you do tell yourself stories about it, you might be closer to ruin than you think.

Be discerning, and careful not to fall into wishful thinking.

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

When a buyer becomes a client, they become a tenant in your head. Shouldn't someone pay the rent...?

[Martin helps nice people sell more @martinstellar]

Yeah of course they have the problem and they want to solve it - but very often they can't or won't, and they're only talking to you so that they look like they're working on a solution.

And then you waste your time on a buyer's problem-solving theatre.