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One of the most toxic trends over the last ten years has been people tying their self worth to the idea of being able to “make it” in New York. There’s so much performative “I love New York”ing while 75% of people are depressed. Sure, if you’re truly hot or truly rich there’s no higher leverage place to make use of it, but it leads to a class of not-quite-hot or not-quite-rich people who are scrambling to convince themselves they’re living the same glorified lives, while in reality they’re killing themselves in a tiny room with shit AC, getting one hinge date a week, and hoping for a love story that never comes.
Go to a smaller city and make some friends. Stop playing the rat race u bozos.
Hot take: NYC is the most overrated city in the world and people destroy their lives attempting to live there when they really belong (and would be happier) in a much smaller city.
I think it’s way easier to make friends in a smaller city, and if you’re intentional it goes a lot farther in a society where other people are less intentional. Eg in sf I have basically become great friends with exactly who I’ve wanted to become friends with; that wouldn’t be possible in New York.
Oh and it’s much easier to have a good social life and good health in most places that aren’t New York.
@Brycetv1@JB4382837830763 I think social media only makes it a little worse. The bigger problem is that you have so many people per square foot that all intentionally moved to a place with an insane standard for contentment and a highly competitive nature.
@WMartell32 I still spend a lot of time in ny, and I decided not to move back full time because this vibe is getting increasingly heavy in the air. But sure call it cope
- hard to get a reservation to most cool restaurants in manhattan
- the box or rooftop party with hot nyu girls is precisely the exclusive vibe. As a normal unconnected man you cannot simply get in! (basement less so but imo it’s not fun to be around a bunch of drugged out people w house playing, and the whole house trend is the ultimate I love new yorkism)
- taking the comment less literally, making plans with the coolest people you know in New York is super hard, they are constantly optimizing their schedules and unless you have something to offer, you’re not part of it! (And I can’t even say fuck those people because I think it’s actually quite reasonable to operate like that in nyc)
@grgilmore1 With the current economics around living in New York, it’s usually a choice rooted in a vision more so than a place people happen to end up
@JB4382837830763 It’s less the direct dollars per fun and more that you’re constantly going to be comparing your fun with the fun of those around you, and competing for access to fun. The most fun people go to the most exclusive places (and they are actually usually the most fun!)
What happened to self worth man. What happened to feeling like life is BIG. I have so many friends who are in their prime, good looking, cool, smart, making many hundreds of thousands of dollars, who haven’t made an interesting or weird or risky or expensive decision since they were teens. What the fuck?