Maxwell

My thoughts creeping up to you in the dark. What you make of them is what they'll be to you

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

Be careful of women who are able to detail what they expect their men to do for them but never what they'd do in return. She's unwilling to invest in you

Women usually tell on themselves if you pay attention

Do not commit to any woman who is unwilling to invest in you

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

This would've been funny if it wasn't sad. I've been reading similar stories lately of men who lack any shred of masculinity

How does your girlfriend cheat on you and you say you're confused and don't know what to do?

Also, why does he have a scarcity mindset? What does he mean that he's not sure that he'd find someone else?

Interesting times indeed

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

@Ugwumba001 @Softnation81 @jon_d_doe Envy? Guiding well? Lol. You think you know my story better than me?

I'm saying my guy is regretting not getting married sooner and always talks about how his children would be grown now if he did and you're here talking about envy

Envy what exactly?

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

@bigslam_ @workpraygrace @jon_d_doe What's the average age bracket of university admissions in Nigeria?

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

@Softnation81 @Ugwumba001 @jon_d_doe Please ask him again

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

@bigslam_ @workpraygrace @jon_d_doe Who told you that life has no manual?

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

One of the biggest problems I see in young men today is a lack of boldness. They're mostly full of excuses

A young man of 30 earns 500k per month and you encourage him to start considering marriage and he starts making up excuses

Telling you how they can't afford it and how things were better in my time. Very funny

How much did you think most men who got married at the time I did were earning?

Or you think Nigeria being bad started today?

Or is the ones that'll keep saying there are no good women out there? How would you find them when you only have eyes for baddies?

You people are not serious

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

@Confydens6 @AdegeneSunday @jon_d_doe He's an unserious fellow looking for pity

He's just full of excuses. What I wrote was clear that my friend had the capacity to get married earlier and he's here talking about graduates not having jobs

Did I tell him that my friend was jobless?

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

I don't know what obsession you young men of these days have with excuses

Most people who get married and want kids usually have a child within the first year of their marriage. Exceptions don't negate the norm

And if you don't have a stable job, don't marry yet. My post was clear. I said the guy had the capacity to get married earlier but he failed to do so

What's with this pity party? Is this how you intend to lead a woman?

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

@workpraygrace @jon_d_doe Did you read what I wrote and you've just been desperate to to type "this thing no get manual"?

Anyways, if you like keep telling yourself that life has no manual

We will be here to tell you sorry the it's time

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

In my early years of marriage, I would often report my wife to her mom when there were issues and I couldn't get through to her

Amateur move. Lol

One day, I couldn't reach the mom so I called the dad and after narrating our issues to him, he asked if I had been speaking with his wife (my wife's mother) about the issues and I said yes

He smiled and said: "my son, do you know what you're doing at all?"

I didn't understand so I asked him to elaborate but he refused, asking me to talk to my dad instead

I called my dad afterwards and asked him if it was okay to report my wife to her mom. He said that should be a last resort. He advised that if I had to speak to an outside family member about my marital problems, it should be a man

I asked why and he said "women will always try to support women. Even your mother does the same"

I learnt a great deal that day

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

Very good advice. But I can already guess what he'll "discover"

It is clear what kind of mindset she has. Take note of the part where she says that her parents "support each other"

What she's most likely telling the young man is that he shouldn't expect her to take up the chores as her responsibility

It's a good thing that he's self-aware enough to ask questions this early and not be consumed by "love"

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

This is an unfortunate reality. But I'd like to speak about the husband

I still do not understand why some men think it is a good idea to confront the men their wives cheat with. It makes no sense at all

Similar to what Frank did with Chike. If anything, it portrays you as a weak man who is also indecisive both to your wife and her side bros

You should never put yourself in such a position. As hard as it will be especially after six children, you shouldn't be condoning that

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

https://t.co/DRZMZ8hfAm

I think that she's lost and has misplaced anger. I don't think she realises how much of an own goal this is

According to her, her father was the ideal father: paid school fees, did homework, fed the large family, etc

Yet they couldn't wash his clothes. 11 wives, 53 children, and the father, who had sacrificed so much, couldn't get any one of them to wash his clothes

She's proud to say that her mother didn't do much around the house despite being fed and educated by this same man

Like I say to men, make sure that you're marrying women who are also investing in you

You do not want to be a responsible husband and father and your wife and children will be proud to say that they do not help you at all at home

Such a shame

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

Be careful of women who are able to detail what they expect their men to do for them but never what they'd do in return. She's unwilling to invest in you

Women usually tell on themselves if you pay attention

Do not commit to any woman who is unwilling to invest in you

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

After a certain age as a man, you need to stop looking for "love" and choose a woman that is good for you and marry her

That kind of "love" that you're looking to feel before you commit may not longer come your way again. After a while, you stop feeling butterflies in your tummy

What you should do instead is to be intentional about what you want in a woman and if you meet someone who scores 7-8/10, go and see her parents

Love is mostly a decision for men and when you choose your woman, it becomes a duty. Leave those butterflies in the stomach for small boys and women

You should start raising your kids as early as possible

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

This is correct both in technical and cultural terms. It is the man who proposes, pays the bride price, and fulfils all the marriage rites

You cannot be marrying someone who paid your bride price. They're marrying you instead

Another lingo that I avoid is "partner". I do not address my wife as my partner and neither does she

She's my wife and I'm her husband

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

One of the things to pick out from this story is the need for s£xual compatibility before walking down the aisle

Now she knows what she likes s£xually. If she married without those experiences, she'd be left frustrated and resentful. Yes, she may have married as a virgin, but she'd know something isn't right

And for the righteous ones that will misunderstand me, I'm not saying it's a bad thing to marry as a virgin

Just saying that even someone who marries as a virgin may be able to tell when they're left unsatisfied

One of the reasons why if you've already lost your virginity, it wouldn't be a bad idea to check for s£xual compatibility before saying "I do"

Love is not enough!

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

@kukaye @jon_d_doe I agree completely

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

@St_ValMariano @jon_d_doe In that case, then it's disappointing and unfortunate

[Maxwell @maxidadd]

@degogetteer @jon_d_doe It's very important to do that