Yesterday I ordered for comfort on bolt and to my greatest shock one old Honda City with questionable engine and a manual gear came to pick me. None of the glass windows could even wind down. The only thing that surprised me at that moment was that the AC actually worked even if it made some weird funny sounds like a ghost was in it. 😂
I jokingly asked him if this is what comfort gets me what will bolt basic be like? He went quiet... I could see was desperately trying to hold back the tears and said “hmm sir you won't understand but I'm sorry about the condition of my car, please bear with me”.
That response stayed with me. When he dropped me I asked for his account number, I sent him 500K and told him to please fix his car. He broke down in tears like mad, telling me I don't know what I have done for him. His wife is heavily pregnant and his car has been giving him one issue or the other but just managing it to raise enough to complete the money for C.S. Even those close to him haven't been be able to come through but a complete stranger like me does this. He thank me repeatedly and prayed for me for minutes.
You never really know what someone is going through behind a smile or behind the things you casually complain about. For me it was just an uncomfortable ride but for him that old Honda was probably his livelihood, his only means of feeding his family. I received a text from him thanking me again later that night yesterday. Be humble and grateful.
Yesterday I ordered for comfort on bolt and to my greatest shock one old Honda City with questionable engine and a manual gear came to pick me. None of the glass windows could even wind down. The only thing that surprised me at that moment was that the AC actually worked even if it made some weird funny sounds like a ghost was in it. 😂
I jokingly asked him if this is what comfort gets me what will bolt basic be like? He went quiet... I could see was desperately trying to hold back the tears and said “hmm sir you won't understand but I'm sorry about the condition of my car, please bear with me”.
That response stayed with me. When he dropped me I asked for his account number, I sent him 500K and told him to please fix his car. He broke down in tears like mad, telling me I don't know what I have done for him. His wife is heavily pregnant and his car has been giving him one issue or the other but just managing it to raise enough to complete the money for C.S. Even those close to him haven't been be able to come through but a complete stranger like me does this. He thank me repeatedly and prayed for me for minutes.
You never really know what someone is going through behind a smile or behind the things you casually complain about. For me it was just an uncomfortable ride but for him that old Honda was probably his livelihood, his only means of feeding his family. I received a text from him thanking me again later that night yesterday. Be humble and grateful.
When you marry someone, you also marry the history in which they were raised. I’ll give you an example.
Obama was a product of separated parents and a generational history of broken homes. Michelle was a product of healthy family relations where everyone - including extended family - met on Sunday. Because of this, Obama never saw the need for marriage and thought it was overrated because he never had that example growing up. Michelle saw marriage as an important part of life and wanted to reproduce the family tradition she was raised in.
In the end, he managed to propose for her sake after pressure from her, and committed to making it work. This means that, while familial history is important as it explains the root of a person’s behaviour, you have to consider the person’s willingness to break that pattern where the behaviour is negative because it takes an astronomical amount of work and courage to disrupt a familiar pattern.
You can tell a lot about a person by what they do after hurting you. Some apologize. Some reflect. Some change. And some will rewrite the entire story in their head just to avoid feeling guilty. Accountability is rare because protecting the ego is easier than becoming better.