THE DARK PSYCHOLOGY OF EVERYDAY BEHAVIOR:
1. People who are crueler online have measurably lower self esteem in real life
2. Oversharing personal information early in a relationship is a trauma bonding mechanism
3. The need to always be right is rooted in childhood emotional invalidation not intelligence
4. People who talk excessively about others are subconsciously avoiding their own inner world
5. Chronic lateness is often an unconscious expression of control and low regard for others
6. People raised with unpredictable parents become adults who confuse anxiety with excitement
7. Excessive generosity without boundaries is frequently a form of self abandonment
8. The compulsion to fix other people is often an avoidance of fixing yourself
9. People who cannot sit in silence are often running from their own thoughts actively
10. Laughing at inappropriate moments is a nervous system response not a character flaw
11. Bragging disguised as casual conversation is almost always rooted in deep insecurity
12. The person who says they do not care is almost always the one who cares the most
13. People who constantly seek validation through helping others are often deeply unfulfilled inside
14. The habit of minimizing your own achievements is a learned survival response from criticism in childhood
15. Passive aggressive behavior is anger expressed by someone who was punished for showing anger directly
16. People who over explain themselves were likely accused of lying repeatedly during childhood
17. The need to be liked by everyone is a fear of abandonment disguised as friendliness
18. Chronic self sabotage is the subconscious choosing familiarity over growth because suffering feels safer
19. People who joke about their deepest pain are often the ones closest to breaking inside
20. The inability to receive compliments gracefully signals a deeply held belief of being unworthy
21. Those who dominate every conversation are subconsciously terrified of being truly seen when silent
22. Perfectionism is rarely about high standards it is almost always about avoiding shame and judgment
Intelligent people are OBSERVANT. They read people quickly but pretend they didn’t notice. They let you talk, reveal yourself, cross lines, and expose your intentions. Then they act once they know exactly who you are.
I had a realization a few years ago that I don't need to figure out why this person is doing a certain behavior I dislike. All that matters is I know I don't like the behavior and I can leave
@realityscol La remolacha y tebi hicieron algún trato porque no justifico tanta brutalidad y recoger migas! Tenian o tienen un plan que solo funcionó hasta que regresó Beba y tanto ella como Valentino les tiraron duro y robaron protagonismo
İnsanlar size kötü davrandıktan sonra hayatlarına devam ederler. Bir odada oturup sizi düşünmezler. Çoğu zaman size kötü davrandıktan sonra bile hayatlarına gayet iyi bir şekilde devam ederler. Bu yüzden, birinin size yaptığı kötü davranıştan pişman olmasını bekleme prangalarından kendinizi kurtarın.
Machiavellian thinking is not “being evil.” It is understanding that morality, image, desire, fear, status, guilt, and timing all move people before logic does. The naive man argues with what people say. The sharper man studies what their position requires them to protect.
“Yo es que soy muy sincero”.
Traducción en muchos casos: “digo lo que me da la gana y no quiero asumir el coste”.
Porque ser sincero no es soltar lo primero que te pasa por la cabeza. Eso lo hace cualquiera. No tiene ningún mérito. Es más, es lo fácil.
People mentally downgrade you before they behaviorally start to disrespect you. Once you notice someone’s level of consideration they once had for you is stating to dwindle, RUN!
"Evita, sobre todas las cosas, otorgarte el estatus de víctima… No importa cuán abominable sea tu condición, trata de no culpar a nada ni a nadie: ni a la Historia, tus superiores, tu raza, tus padres, las fases de la luna, tu infancia, la manera en que te enseñaron a ir al baño, etc. El repertorio es vasto y tedioso, y esa vastedad y ese tedio por sí solos deberían ser lo suficientemente ofensivos como para indisponer tu inteligencia contra la búsqueda de culpables. En el momento en que culpas a los demás, socavas tu determinación de cambiar cualquier cosa."
Joseph Brodsky (Premio Nobel de literatura), Discurso en la Universidad de Michigan