@your1commander@peterrhague And in a lot of cases it's less about the problem and more just omg I need to talk to my best friend, talking to him always makes me feel better
@your1commander@peterrhague True lol but it's also really slow only at the beginning when you're building that muscle of trust and honesty with each other. Kind of like saving the first x dollars or weightlifting. With more trust established, security grows, and you have better problems you solve quicker.
@peterrhague You are problem solving when you listen. Start w oh no, tell me about it. She'll talk to you about her first impressions/round of feelings. Then keep saying what else till you can see she's gotten it out of her system. Then ask if she wants your perspective/a solution. Hugs help