i believe in re-reading and re-watching your favourite books & movies at different stages of your life. the plot never changes, but your perspective does.
Anushka Sharma left India to live in 4 AQI of London, eats the most unadulterated food items in the world, jogs in clean lanes, lives around the most advanced healthcare system.
Then comes home occasionally and preaches unscientific cures using Homeopathy to Indians who breathe in 400+ AQI Air, eat adulterated food and walk in garbage and dirt.
The older I get, the more I realize that optimism is a competitive advantage. Not blind positivity. The belief that problems can be solved. That things can improve. That your actions matter. People who believe a better future is possible are the ones who create it.
turns out going monk mode for six weeks and doing love activities and beauty rituals and getting rid of tons of stuff and sobering up and eating whole foods and being surrounded by people you adore does fix your life
Forget about Indians going abroad and creating a nuisance. I mostly travel solo and usually stay in backpacker hostels like Zostel or GoStops. Lately, though, I have noticed something that is slowly ruining the whole hostel experience.
Groups of friends now book dorms instead of private rooms. And honestly, if you are travelling as a group and your plan is to spend the night drinking, chatting loudly, playing music, and hanging out with each other, why not just book a private room, a hotel, or an Airbnb? Instead, they check into dorms and treat the entire space as their personal hangout spot. Endless conversations late into the night, loud laughter, music, drinking in common areas, and complete disregard for the fact that there are other people around trying to sleep, work, read, or simply enjoy some quiet time.
When backpacking culture was still relatively new, there was an unwritten code. People socialised, made friends, and shared stories, but they were also mindful of the fact that they were sharing a space with strangers. The whole idea of a backpacker hostel was to create a comfortable environment where travellers, especially solo travellers, could meet people while still respecting each other’s peace. That culture seems to be fading away.
And honestly, I think this goes beyond hostels. It is part of a larger decline in civic sense and consideration for others. Somewhere along the way, we have become less aware of how our behaviour affects the people around us. Maybe this sounds like a small thing, but anyone who has spent enough time in hostels will understand. A dorm is a shared space. It works only when people remember that they are not the only ones in it.
And also I strongly believe there is a difference between a traveller and a tourist. A traveller adapts to the place and respects the people around them. A tourist expects the place to adapt to them. Sadly, more and more backpacker hostels today seem to be attracting the latter.
@ZostelHostel@gostopsofficial@thehosteller
Underrated life advice: Make yourself easy to root for. Be kind. Be reliable. Celebrate other people’s wins. Work hard without complaining. Carry good energy into rooms. You'll be shocked by how many doors open for you by making life better for others.
Every country has an energy. And that energy rewires you whether you notice it or not. People move to Japan and become minimal. People move to Mexico and their entire relationship with time softens. People move to New York and suddenly they can't sit still. Your personality is far more malleable than you think. We treat it like something fixed, but new surroundings give you new defaults. New pace. New habits. New values absorbed through proximity instead of effort. You're not just the average of the 5 people closest to you. You're the average of the 5 places, the 5 routines, and the 5 inputs you're exposed to most. Your commute shapes you. The weather shapes you. Every space you occupy is voting on who you become. That's why I believe choosing where you live is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make. More important than your job title. Maybe more important than your five-year plan. Because the place shapes the plan. The place shapes your energy, your habits, your relationships, your default state. Get the place right and half of the other decisions start making themselves. Get it wrong and you'll fight yourself every day.
Adult friendships require grace. People are busy. People are working. People are parenting. People are burnt out. People are healing. People are fighting health battles. People are prioritizing their true responsibilities. Don’t mistake minimal communication for a lack of care or love. Some of us are just getting by and giving everything we have to our families. Check in before you check out.
People spend their early 20s chasing success.
Then suddenly at 28 they realize the true luxury in life is a slow Tuesday morning with good coffee and nowhere urgent to be.
I am people.
Happy Monday to all.
My most expensive lesson last year was realizing how much money I was spending to avoid feeling things. Random online orders at midnight. Eating out whenever I felt low. Upgrading things that didn’t need upgrading. All of it was fine individually and was technically affordable. But add it up across a year and I basically paid about ₹2.3 lakhs to not sit with my own discomfort.
Emotional spending is real and nobody talks about it because it doesn’t look like a problem. It looks like a lifestyle.