and for my final act of love, i’ll stop reaching out, stop explaining myself, & stop trying to be understood. i’ll let the silence settle between us and let you become a stranger i once knew everything about. sometimes, loving someone also means knowing when to finally let go.
Right now life is teaching me the law of detachment, ain't nothing really yours, you gotta be comfortable with not being attached, just enjoying life for what it is and move on when it's time. No forcing, no chasing, no begging.
I’m convinced a lot of people don’t actually want a relationship. They want access to someone who loves them, validates them, and makes their life easier… without having to actually show up, communicate, or be accountable.
the audacity to sexualize me all day but disappear the moment I need actual emotional presence. that's not intimacy, that's leech/parasite behavior with extra steps.
My male friend told me, “A man cheating once doesn't necessarily make him a bad person” I asked him, “Would you say the same thing if your girlfriend cheated once?” He immediately said, “No, that's completely different” I asked, “How?” He said, “A woman knows what she's doing when she cheats” I looked at him and said, “So when a man cheats, it was a mistake, When a woman cheats, it reveals her character?” He said, “Men think differently” I said, “Maybe, But somehow ‘men think differently’ always seems to mean men deserve more forgiveness”
Cowards struggle with integrity, so when their cowardice eventually affects you, they usually will not handle you with the grace, transparency, honesty and compassion that the situation requires.
Which you must understand if you have been strung along, breadcrumbed, kept in an almost relationship or later find out that the person you were dealing with was juggling you alongside somebody else. They were intentionally keeping enough distance to protect themselves.
Experience has taught me not to celebrate until I’m at least three months into the job. Being in the wrong work environment is worse than unemployment.