❤️SuSu 👑❣️

#DarkBeauty😍, great listener🤭, #low-key tweep🤗#looking for sensible mutuals ☹️#Wife#Mother#freelancer😅❤️

[❤️SuSu 👑❣️ @melanindami]

December 17th
Alhamdulilah robil al amin
They finally exchanged me with yam😂😂
It’s been a great journey and it’s about to be the greatest one💯💯
THE ADESANU’S
thank you Twitter #WeMetOnTwitter

[Ibironke Khadeejah Quadri @ronkecarew]

Allah is indeed sufficient, Alhamdulillah, it will get better..keep the faith

[MOROUNTODUN. (AJOKEADE) @Ajokeaadee]

Imagine owing 4M when you have over 12M tied somewhere!💔💔

Please, I’m begging in God’s name… buy snails from me today. 🙏🏽

I have a lot of snails, plenty. I invested heavily into this business because this is what I do for a living. Snails, food business, goats, cows… this is my hustle, this is how I survive.

But life happened.

For months, I was seriously unwell. I had to travel back to my hometown to take care of myself. Those months away from work damaged everything for me financially. If I was healthy and active like before, I would never be online begging like this. I would have been supplying my customers quietly and handling my responsibilities.

Now the debts have piled up on my neck.

I’m paying for storage space every two days just to keep these snails alive. Different people are disturbing me for repayment. Three different people are seriously on my neck right now and nobody wants to hear excuses anymore. Polaris Bank is even adding their own stress to everything I’m already battling with.

Today alone, I need to pay someone over 1.4 million naira.

I am overwhelmed.
I am exhausted.
I am frustrated.
And honestly… it is becoming depressing.

At this point, I don’t even care if they bring it to the tl. Maybe if people see the post, they will finally patronize my snail business. Maybe they will buy from me. Maybe this burden on my chest will reduce a little. Imagine thinking to end your own LIFE because of pressure!

Please, if you have ever supported me before, support me again.
If you have never bought from me before, please buy today.
If you know people that need snails in bulk, connect them to me.

Even if you need 4,000 pieces, I have.

I’m not asking for pity.
I’m simply begging for patronage so I can survive this difficult moment and settle the people I’m owing.

Please help me by buying snails from me today. 🙏🏽
Thank you so much

[Ibironke Khadeejah Quadri @ronkecarew]

Allahumma Khairan Fii Kulli Amrin Antadhiruh

Ya Allah, give me the best in everything I'm waiting for.🤲🤲🤲🤲

[Ibironke Khadeejah Quadri @ronkecarew]

Once you have a salaried job or any stable source of income or even a side hustle giving you any steady income.

You must Read or Listen to the Book Richest Man in Babylon. Do it more than once, every time you read theirs always something to learn.

It's free on youtube, take notes, implement the knowledge, act on it.
It was very useful for me in my early days and I still use it till today. Every Single mentee of mine is mandated to READ AND implement.
I am sharing with you, it's a cheat code for people from our kind of background.

So get to work, I wish you God's speed and all the best

[Ibironke Khadeejah Quadri @ronkecarew]

Ya Allah, fix what I cannot fix, Heal what I cannot heal, Protect me from what I cannot see and every evil of Men 🤲🤲🤲

[Ibironke Khadeejah Quadri @ronkecarew]

Bought houses both Home and abroad, and yes cash down abroad as well
Built a house for my parents
Bought Cars for my parents
Sent 2 of my Siblings to Private University from start till graduation
Series of cars for myself , all cash down
Sponsored my Hajj and umrahs repeatedly myself
Sponsored my Mums Hajj single handedly
Survived brutal divorce and bounce back significantly without a significant dent on my finances and not collecting a dime from the Man as alimony or Children support for years.
Sponsoring 2 international Holidays for my kids and I yearly
Supporting my 3 children through school
Went back to study for my Masters.
Building a business in Healthcare and by God's grace so many more
All with assistance of God, Hardwork, resilience and emotional support from few dependable friends
And yes not from any Man but Funds from my Career and serial side hustle whilst maintaining my dignity and integrity. A grateful being and a testament to God's unending goodness plus self belief, hardwork and self assurance.

[❤️SuSu 👑❣️ @melanindami]

@OgbeniAyoola Alhamdulilah robil al ameen🙇🏾‍♀️
May Allah grant her complete shifa!
Ameen

[Food Science Queen🌱 @_mhayree_]

Blender - oxidation and heat (dull flavour)
Cutting - preserves cell structure (intense and sharp heat)
Mortar and pestle - crushes cells to release essential oils and utilizes the presence of biofilm for depth.

[A.Y.O @YusufAsunmogejo]

Let’s talk about the 7-7-7 rule of parenting. I know that some of you might have heard of it before. But what I want to share with you are rare tips that you cannot find in your regular blogs.

Why the 7-7-7 Rule in the first place?

We are all exhausted. I see it in my DMs every day. We are fighting battles in our homes that we should not even be in because we try to use the same heavy hand for every age.

The truth is, you cannot use the same logic for a toddler that you use for a teenager. When you use the wrong tool at the wrong time, you do not just fail to teach the child. You break the relationship between you and the child.

The 7-7-7 rule is the solution to this constant friction. This rule was first echoed by Ali ibn Abi Talib (May The Almighty be pleased with him).

He said: Play with them for seven years, Discipline them for seven years, and then Befriend them for seven years. It sounds easy, but most of us do it in the wrong order. We are too serious with the toddlers and then we try to be the boss when they are already teenagers.

(1) The 0 to 7 Years Stage. This is the stage to build the love tank. Imam Al-Ghazali said in Ihya, that a child's heart is a precious jewel that is blank and ready for any carving. In these years, you should play more than you lecture.

One rare tip that you can adopt going forward is Overhead Praise. Direct praise is good, but overhead praise is gold. Instead of telling them they are good, tell your spouse or a friend about their good deed while the child is in the room. When they hear you brag about their kindness when they think you aren't looking, it builds a deep confidence.

Action Tip: Find one small thing they did well today and mention it to someone else while they are nearby. Make sure they can hear you. Be intentional and consistent about it.

(2) The 7 to 14 Years Stage. This is the time for character and boundaries. The scholar Ibn al-Jawzi in Sayd al-Khatir, warned us about forcing a narrow vessel to hold too much.

Remember I talked about Taghaful (Strategic Ignorance) yesterday. This is the right age to use it. It means you see the mistake, but you choose to look away. If you correct every single thing they do wrong, they will develop a hearing block against your voice by age ten. You have to save your corrections for the things that matter.

Action Tip: Start today by adopting the 70/30 rule. Ignore 70% of the small irritations, maybe it is a messy desk or a slow response. Save your energy for the 30% that actually involves character or safety.

Only speak up for the big boundaries. You are building authority by not wasting it on small irritations. Pay attention to their demeanor and be consistent.

(3) The 14 to 21 Years Stage. In this stage, the "boss" version of you must die so the "consultant" version can be born. The scholar Ibn Miskawayh in Tahdhib al-Akhlaq, wrote about the refinement of the soul as a process that requires respect. If you keep using force, they will just learn to hide their life from you.

Action Tip: Your job now is to protect their Sirr (Sacred Secrecy). If they tell you something heavy, misdeed or embarrassing, keep it between you. Do not share it with the extended family. To keep them close, you must be a safe vault.

This week, try to listen to them for twenty minutes without giving a single piece of advice. Just listen so they know you are a friend they can trust with their future.

In all, the 7-7-7 rule is about realizing that you are a gardener. You don't make the plant grow. You just provide the right environment for it to reach its own opening (Fath).

As a parent, which stage are you currently navigating? Let’s discuss in the comments👏🏿👏🏿

[A.Y.O @YusufAsunmogejo]

Since the past 24 hours that I made the tweet on child parenting solution, my DM has been buzzing. I checked them, and one thing was quite common to all: Parents who are not happy about their kid’s performance in school, and they have approached it the wrong way.

If you fall in this category, this post is for you.

Many of us use brutal force because expectations are too high, and the anger is just too much. The scholar Ibn al-Jawzi explained in his book Sayd al-Khatir that intellect is a Rizq (provision) from God, just like money or health.

He said some people are born with a wide vessel and others with a narrow one. If you try to force the water of a whole sea into a small cup, you will only spill the water and ruin the cup. This is what many of us are doing. We are trying to force a "doctor's brain" into a child whose cup was designed for something else.

By that, it causes a soul-crushing resentment in the child. Imam Al-Ghazali described this beautifully in Ihya’ Ulum al-Din. He warned parents about a state called “Al-Malal”, where a child builds resentment because they are pushed beyond their limit. Everyone wants the best for their child. No doubt. However, if you keep yelling at them for things they cannot grasp yet, you make them hate the very sight of a book. You are closing the door to their heart while trying to kick open the door to their mind.

Then what is the solution? It is simple.

Going forward, every parent should make efforts to start looking for the Fath (the opening) in their kids. What does this mean? This is the lane the Almighty has prepared for them. In our history, if a child is slow with grammar or math, the scholars don’t call them a failure. They move them to a trade, a craft or a service.

How then do you identify this Fath (Opening) in your child? Please pay close attention to me…

(1) The first phase is Observation. Ibn al-Qayyim mentioned a concept called Istid’ad (natural readiness) in his book titled: Tuhfat al-Mawdud. This means you want to watch/observe/look at the child when they think nobody is looking. This is your first tool. For the next two weeks, stop talking about school. Do not worry yourself about how they perform on their homework.

Instead, keep a "Strength Log." Every evening, write down one thing they did well that had nothing to do with a classroom. Did they fix a broken toy? Did they calm down a crying sibling? Did they organise their shoes? You are looking for their Istid’ad (natural readiness). If they are "book-slow" but "people-smart" or "hand-smart," that is where the key has been placed.

(2) Introduce “Project or Craft” early on. Ibn Khaldun, in his Muqaddimah, argued that projects/crafts are high forms of intelligence that build civilizations. He argued that some minds are designed to understand the physical world better than the abstract one.

Give them a "Project Day." Buy a basic tool kit, a sewing machine, or a coding starter kit. Give them a broken radio or a piece of furniture to fix. Delegate. Give them a real-world task that has a visible result. When a child who fails at math sees that they can build a table or bake a perfect loaf of bread, their internal shame starts to heal. They realize they are not stupid; they were just in the wrong room.

(3) Kill the Comparison Virus. Imam Al-Zarnuji, in his classic work Ta’lim al-Muta’allim, explained that a student should only study what fits their nature. He said that forcing a student into a field they have no taste for is a waste of their life and the teacher's time. When you compare your child to others, you are catching a virus that blinds you to their path. Always filter.

When family members start bragging about their kids' grades, you must be the shield. Tell them, "My child is mastering the art of (so so and so)." You are teaching your child that success is not a single ladder. There are many ladders to it. And if you do not value their ladder, they will stop climbing.

(4) Prioritize Character Building. Put more efforts to praise your kids for their good character. Always tell them you love them when they behave well or show good character. Character recognition helps the child build a good self-image, which translates into self-confidence and barrier-breaking for the child. Prioritise this.

(5) Don’t underestimate the power of your words. Always pray to God to grant them their opening. The scholars taught that the "opening" is a gift from Al-Fattah (The Opener). Supplicate.

In your Sujud or in your prayers, stop asking for them to be a doctor/engineer, and what have you. Ask for the door that was made for them to be opened. Ask Him to show you the Fath so you can stop pushing them against a closed wall.

Always remember, a parent who finds the "Fath (The Opening)" for their child has given them a gift better than a degree. You have given them a purpose. Start that journey NOW. It’s never too late…

Thank you for your attention.

Allah knows best.

[❤️SuSu 👑❣️ @melanindami]

@omoalhajaabiola My mum and mother in law 🙇🏾‍♀️❤️

[❤️SuSu 👑❣️ @melanindami]

@abdul_ubello I’m interested, Lagos

[❤️SuSu 👑❣️ @melanindami]

Alhamdulilah robil al ameen 🤍
Another 365 days and all I see is Allah’s mercy, protection, and growth.
Ya Allah grant me ease, barakah, clarity, and undeniable favor. Let this year carry peace, abundance, and answered prayers.
Grateful for where I was. Proud of where I am.

[❤️SuSu 👑❣️ @melanindami]

Hopeful for where I’m going.
Bismillah for this new chapter ✨

[❤️SuSu 👑❣️ @melanindami]

Alhamdulilah robil al ameen 🤍
Another 365 days and all I see is Allah’s mercy, protection, and growth.
Ya Allah grant me ease, barakah, clarity, and undeniable favor. Let this year carry peace, abundance, and answered prayers.
Grateful for where I was. Proud of where I am.

[❤️SuSu 👑❣️ @melanindami]

@IdrisAOni1 “It’s not always about who shares your religion. Sometimes help comes through whoever God decides to use.”

[MAY💙💤 @munahtee]

My fellow Muslim moms, how did we even survive that Ramadan sleep schedule? 😭
Waking for sahur, cooking, school run, thinking of iftaar… next thing alarm again 😩 I was moving like a zombie all month.
But Alhamdulillah, we did it. Purely on vibes and tawakkul 🤍

[officer w👀s @officerwoos]

first time in my entire life that my fasting (ramadan) will be complete. alihamdulilahi

[👳🏾‍♂️Mufti Of Ilorin Online 👳🏾‍♂️ @Adamthallith]

I don’t want to sound crazy, like I’m exaggerating or obsessed, but I’ll say this anyway.

The Kaaba is the first non-living thing I’ve ever seen that carries such a powerful aura. It almost feels like the presence of a celebrity. It stands there on its own, and everyone just wants to get close to it. People struggle through the crowd just to touch it — men, women, young, old, Black, white — everyone reaching out for that moment, myself included.

It reminded me of the kind of reaction people had to Michael Jackson. People see the Kaaba and become overwhelmed with emotion — some start crying, some wave at it, some even blow kisses toward it.

It’s tall, dark, massive, and even the air around it carries a beautiful scent.

Honestly… it’s breathtaking. Too beautiful. 😩

I’m happy I no longer have to see it only on TV or social media. I’m happy I don’t have to imagine what it looks like anymore, or just listen to people talk about it.

Now I have seen it with my own eyes.
Now I have touched it.
Now I have kissed it.

There is truly no feeling that compares to it.

Before this, I used to think the most beautiful feeling in the world was watching Manchester United win a match live inside Old Trafford.

But after standing in front of the Kaaba, the feeling of Old Trafford has now moved to second place.

I say a prayer for every Muslim who longs for this holiest journey. May Allah invite you to it. May you not live only in the imagination of it, and may you one day stand there and witness it with your own eyes.

Āmīn.

[❤️SuSu 👑❣️ @melanindami]

@Toheeb08115743 @Atilolahafeezah I plugged my phone and saw 36%🫥 that was when it clicked 🤣🤣