TheHalpernProject

SurThriver Warrior Princess #EditingOutTheTaboo in #DomesticViolence 🙌🏻 Former Vogue Italia/Interview Magazine Contributor⚡️#SelfCare Freak⚡️Fierce #Feminist

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

Gurl in da hood is on her way to her 231st #therapy session in another hood.🙌🏻No one said #domesticviolence surthrival was easy.😕 #domesticviolencesurvivor #dvsurvivor #domesticviolenceawareness #domesticabuse #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #girlpower #strongwomen

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

@RhiaCrewe Thank God for the bottom three, otherwise I wouldn’t have celebrated anything in life.

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

@amcampbell84 Right. In fact what they love most is abusing the system.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Post Traumatic Growth (PTG) is real.

Research shows we can grow, change, and evolve after any traumatic event.

How To Thrive In 2024:

[Dr. Jessica Taylor @DrJessTaylor]

Did you know that the way a woman looks will impact whether her rapist or abuser is found guilty in a courtroom?

This was one of the most depressing findings of my PhD years ago.

Here’s what I learned:

If a woman is raped or abused, and she is seen as unattractive, overweight, gender non-conforming, if she is Black, if she is disabled or in some other way ‘unconventional’ to the white thin het femme norm, she is more likely for her case to be found not guilty or to be dropped.

When jurors and professionals have been asked why this was, they stated that they didn’t believe unattractive women would be raped or abused by men, and that she was probably lying.

HOWEVER - and here’s the fuckin kicker…

If a woman is raped or abused, and she is seen as very attractive, thin, White, or in some other way seen as beautiful… she is also likely for her case to be found not guilty or to be dropped.

When researchers asked jurors and professionals why this happened, they stated that they felt the woman must have led the man on, and it wasn’t his fault that he couldn’t control himself when she was so attractive. They were also more likely to employ rape myths about her wanting it or asking for it.

Worst of all, these findings apply to children: teenage girls.

So the moral of this vile misogynistic story is that:

Women, we can’t win.

They might pretend it’s about our appearance, but either way, we will be blamed and framed as liars. Our bodies will be used against us whether we are size 8 or size 22. It doesn’t matter whether we have long wavy locks or a short crop, it will be used. It doesn’t matter if we were running on a treadmill or we were in our wheelchair, it will be used against us.

This is misogyny. This is the reality of our courts.

This is why we can’t/won’t/don’t prosecute rape of women and girls.

Because no matter what he did, observers always find a way to blame the woman.

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

When you rather be in #dubai than #newyork…just for New Year’s. https://t.co/5o6fqZ0IIt

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

Friday #badbitch mood. #cakeart: Paulette Goto. #takeadeepbreathandrememberwhothefuckyouare #fridaymood #arttherapy #baking-therapy#badbitch mood. #cakeart: Paulette Goto. #takeadeepbreathandrememberwhothefuckyouare #fridaymood #arttherapy #bakingtherapy

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

I've been there...same situation...same shelter...it's disgusting. Instead of completely emphasizing #homelessshelter reform, what #Newyorkcity should be doing is increasing access to #domesticviolenceshelters. For anyone that doesn't know it, THEY ARE NOT THE SAME THING!

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

When women have nowhere to go because of #domesticviolence in #NYC...They are re-traumatized by the city's #homeless #shelters. Abuse Victim Who Slept in Car Over NYC Shelter Issues Bails on System Entirely https://t.co/f5fGzu5VGn

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

🙄🙄🙄🙄 People Are Creating Sexbot Girlfriends and Treating Them as Punching Bags https://t.co/MtcSJRoj5k

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

As a magazine editor & survivor of #toxicrelationships, this brilliant bit from @TheFemaleWarhol couldn’t resonate w/me more.💯💯 #narcissisticabusesurvivor #domesticviolencesurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissists #domesticviolence #psychopathfree #boundaries #codependentnomore

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

@ItsMrsRabbitToU When the verdict was reported I was watching @CNN live on my iPad...on my bus ride home and screamed out "Yes!" Everyone looked at me like I was crazy.

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

@My_SimpleMind #vulnerabilityisstrength

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

Just sharing a quote I thought up before bed:) #domesticviolencesurvivor #narcissisticabusesurvivor #healingjourney #DomesticViolence #DomesticAbuse #domesticviolenceawareness #NarcissisticAbuse #posttraumaticgrowth #traumarecovery #traumahealing

[Julie Levine @JulieLevineArt]

Ignoring the red flags because you want to see the good in people will cost you later.

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

Please Stop Asking FKA Twigs—And All Domestic-Abuse Survivors—‘Why Did You Stay?’ https://t.co/RRDvFT0hLL via @voguemagazine

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

Just another example of how “silence” fucks you. #politics #sexism

[Women & Politics Institute @AU_WPI]

.@BLFF_org's latest research shows that simply ignoring sexism hurts candidates - when candidates point out sexism, it increases voter confidence! Check out more of their research findings on sexism on the campaign trail here: https://t.co/K8Ddwm22al via @BLFF_org

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

#selflove #healingjourney #domesticviolencesurvivor #yougotthis #strongwoman #strongwomen #empoweringwomen #womenempoweringwomen #bepresent #Mindfulness #narcissisticabusesurvivor #mentalhealth #domesticviolenceawareness #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #narcissisticabuse

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

As part of my new #survivor #selfcare routine, I spend 1hr/day finding epic #feministart & creativity that promote a strong sense of https://t.co/Z9LA0DA4HC 2day I’m obsessing over #art from the #instagram content creator, SelfLoveBlossom that tells u to “Breathe” cuz u a badass!

[TheHalpernProject @MelsHalpern]

Jesus!!!!

[Min Jin Lee @minjinlee11]

“The surge is staggering: there’s been a 1900% increase in anti-Asian hate crimes in New York City in the past year.” https://t.co/nizRmQPTk4

[Kirstie Alley @kirstiealley]

As people get older they usually have a few pearls l of wisdom so here’s mine. until you get over the constant thirst to be liked and popular you will accomplish very little.