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Educator, social researcher, MSc (Dist.) applied psychology. Opposing DV & coercive control 🇬🇧🇧🇧🙏🏾🐕🎵

[Female voices @memakingmidlife]

7 days to go until I eat like a refugee for one whole week. Explained in my video below. #rationchallengeuk #rationchallenge
#Concernworldwide #Awareness
#donate https://t.co/gzDscVYIy3

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@wyeism @leah_r04 She's a middle class Bajan browning - blond surfer boys who look exactly like whatever his name is (forgot) are their type. Barbados social class and beauty standards dynamics are a thing to behold. #barbados

[Female voices @memakingmidlife]

I call BS. A bunch of mediocre Clarkson backed farmers won a *talent* competition over a highly talented 🐕? Really now. Salsa was ROBBED. Fuming. #britainsgottalent

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@michaelmajjo I'm no Amanda Holden fan, but superlatives are also adjectives - they describe nouns.

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@sarahksryder Rage bait - right?😦 #britainsgottalent

[Christo @ChristoMaass87]

Not for me, could not understand how he got a golden buzzer before, reminds me of some drunk guy randomly give a speech in the pub #BritainsGotTalent

[Female voices @memakingmidlife]

Someone please quickly offer these farmers the Xmas #1 in exchange for them robbing Salsa 🐕 of her £250K. In no world are they more *TALENTED* than that angel dog🤨 #britainsgottalent

[Female voices @memakingmidlife]

I cried the whole way through that - is it even possible to watch a dog dance without blubbing with pure wonder and love ❤️. Dogs - the very best of everything the world has to offer🥹🐕 #britainsgottalent #bgt

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Salsa for the win 🥰🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾#britainsgottalent

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@Ellekl @KayBurley Then they'd both be known to the happy couple & both be invited. As per normal invitations. "We request the pleasure of the company of Bob *and* Sue..."

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How much & why are people at #itv being paid to produce this abominable stream of sh*te shows? All the sets have the same Kids TV ambience & the casts are collectively 'odd'. They all also have lame & unsuitable hosts #theneighbourhood #celebritysabotage #nobodysfool 😒

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@debsuffolk By default - the only non-dire act in the lineup. Pleased for them, as though not my usual taste, they do actually have talent 🎶👏🏾 #sos #britainsgottalent #bgt

[Female voices @memakingmidlife]

"Britain, are you ready?" Seriously? No I'm not. I wasn't ready the first time & I'm doubly not ready for a do-over. Wake me when the primetime sadomasochist bondage act is over. Disgraceful, #itv #britainsgottalent

[Female voices @memakingmidlife]

@SimonBrundish @MissCatnach Yes. And they do - it's very common. But photos make the targeting much more 'efficient'. And also enables reverse searches to find out more about the child & any vulnerabilities they can exploit. They intercept them outside school gates, walking home, public transport, etc etc

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@SimonBrundish @MissCatnach Nefarious person sees photo; targets child they 'like'. Waits by school & intercepts child. Grooms child. Risk 1 of many. I also think its time uniforms were generic so we retain the known benefits but stop broadcasting children's daily routine to all & sundry outside of school.

[Female voices @memakingmidlife]

UK schools on the whole, on the back of such findings 👇🏾, acknowledge and verbally promote handwriting as a far superior learning tool compared to typing. BUT simultaneously endorse the modern day 'efficiency' of typed notes...🙄

[Ihtesham Ali @ihtesham2005]

A Norwegian neuroscientist spent 20 years proving that the act of writing by hand changes the human brain in ways typing physically cannot, and almost nobody outside her field has read the paper.

Her name is Audrey van der Meer.

She runs a brain research lab in Trondheim, and the paper that closed the argument was published in 2024 in a journal called Frontiers in Psychology. The finding is brutal enough that it should have changed every classroom on Earth.

The experiment was simple. She recruited 36 university students and put each one in a cap with 256 sensors pressed against their scalp to record brain activity. Words flashed on a screen one at a time.

Sometimes the students wrote the word by hand on a touchscreen using a digital pen, and sometimes they typed the same word on a keyboard. Every neural response was recorded for the full five seconds the word stayed on screen.

Then her team looked at the part of the data most researchers had ignored for years, which is how different parts of the brain were communicating with each other during the task.

When the students wrote by hand, the brain lit up everywhere at once.

The regions responsible for memory, sensory integration, and the encoding of new information were all firing together in a coordinated pattern that spread across the entire cortex. The whole network was awake and connected.

When the same students typed the same word, that pattern collapsed almost completely.

Most of the brain went quiet, and the connections between regions that had been alive seconds earlier were nowhere to be found on the EEG.

Same word, same brain, same person, and two completely different neurological events.

The reason turned out to be something nobody had really paid attention to before her work. Writing by hand is not one motion but a sequence of thousands of tiny micro-movements coordinated with your eyes in real time, where each letter is a different shape that requires the brain to solve a slightly different spatial problem.

Your fingers, wrist, vision, and the parts of your brain that track position in space are all working together to produce one letter, then the next, then the next.

Typing throws all of that away. Every key on a keyboard requires the exact same finger motion regardless of which letter you are pressing, which means the brain has almost nothing to integrate and almost no problem to solve.

Van der Meer said it plainly in her interviews.

Pressing the same key with the same finger over and over does not stimulate the brain in any meaningful way, and she pointed out something that should scare every parent who handed their kid an iPad.

Children who learn to read and write on tablets often cannot tell letters like b and d apart, because they have never physically felt with their bodies what it takes to actually produce those letters on a page.

A decade before her, two researchers at Princeton ran the same fight using a completely different method and ended up at the same answer. Pam Mueller and Daniel Oppenheimer tested 327 students across three experiments, where half took notes on laptops with the internet disabled and half took notes by hand, before testing everyone on what they actually understood from the lectures they had watched.

The handwriting group won by a wide margin on every question that required real understanding rather than surface recall.

The reason was hiding in the transcripts of what the two groups had actually written down.

The laptop students typed almost word for word, capturing more total content but processing almost none of it as they went, while the handwriting students physically could not write fast enough to transcribe a lecture in real time, which forced them to listen carefully, decide what actually mattered, and put it in their own words on the page.

That single act of choosing what to keep was the learning itself, and the keyboard had quietly skipped the choosing and skipped the learning along with it.

Two studies. Two countries. Same answer.

Handwriting makes the brain work. Typing lets it coast.

Every note you have ever typed instead of written went into your brain through a thinner pipe. Every meeting, every book highlight, every idea you captured on your phone instead of on paper was processed at half depth.

You did not forget those things because your memory is bad. You forgot them because typing never woke the part of the brain that would have made them stick.

The fix is the thing your grandmother already knew.

Pick up a pen. Write the thing down. The slower road is the faster one.

[Jay Darkmoore @JayDarkmoore]

I have seen a lot of posts and videos in relation to the new MAFS BBC Panorama documentary, essentially asking why, if women were being mistreated on the show by their partners, they didn’t just leave.

I was a police officer for many years, specialising in cases of domestic abuse and abusive patterns of behaviour.

I thought we had got past victim blaming in relation to domestic abuse?

People don’t leave abusive relationships, even short-term ones, for a variety of reasons.

The person is not abusive 100% of the time. When they are kind and compassionate, it can become intoxicating, especially in contrast to when they are awful. This makes victims crave the good parts, and they are conditioned to believe that the bad parts are their fault. This makes them want to “try harder” and “be better” for their abuser, because the good times become the reward.

There is also the fact that abusers can be scary, and they can play serious mental games with a victim. The victim literally may not understand that they are being abused.

The victim may fear that they will not be believed, or that the abuser will create a smear campaign against them, making them out to be the bad one, and trying to ruin their life and/or reputation.

Abusers deny that they have done anything wrong when called out, and are masters at turning the tables on their victims, convincing them that they are the abusers, not them. This is called DARVO: deny, attack, reverse victim and offender.

Throw in a reality TV show with cameras, the promise of fame, and the impact of leaving a show and the reputational costs this can have depending on what is aired in your absence, and it creates the perfect scenario for abuse to breed, go unchallenged, and for victims to feel trapped with someone who is hurting them.

Instead of asking ‘why don’t they leave?’ we need to ask ‘why does the abuser act like this?’

@Rachel_SUTDA

[Female voices @memakingmidlife]

@SocialMediaJon1 Disagree - every programme should just be dancing dogs. News - dancing dogs; Soaps - dancing dogs; Antiques Roadshow - dancing dogs. And so on.

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@OorRoy 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 nailed it😅

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This poem lacks talent. It's just some random waffling a series of idioms & platitudes. It's abysmal - my poor ears😒 #britainsgottalent

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The roast was mediocre. Not hilarious and not uniquely clever. The judges are salivating over it because it was about them...so way funnier to them, even if others enjoyed it. Basic human nature #britainsgottalent