@Reflexistir If you're throwing a wedding party with the hopes of making some money in return then you don't have one. While its customary for guests to bring a gift if your banking on that gift to pay for the wedding then you messed up. I wouldn't send any message. Eat the extra cost.
@guideforlovers I would venture to say being a middle school teacher is way harder then taking care of a baby. Those pre-teens wear you down and you need a small mental break from that stress all day before he goes on daddy duty
@MatrixMysteries Real plates (even if they are plastic picnic plates) are reusable. She's throwing away money buying paper plates. That $15 could have been spent on bread and some PB & J
@ayeejuju First thing I did when I bought a new home was call someone to change over all the locks not take a vacation with your old locks still in place