Men are lonely because they're insufferable to be around. For one of the first times in history, women don't need men for any material security.
While there is still social pressure, women are only seeking romantic relationships with men for the emotional enrichment those men would bring to their lives. We no longer need men, they are competing solely on the basis of their character, and they're failing. That is their fault. Not women's and not feminisms.
High intelligence often comes with heightened pattern recognition. You start noticing social masks, forced conversations, performative friendships, hidden motives, emotional immaturity, and energy that feels draining instead of nourishing. Many highly intelligent people also have more active nervous systems, deeper inner worlds, and lower tolerance for superficial stimulation, so solitude can feel safer than constantly shrinking themselves to fit environments that don't feel aligned.
Una volta la nonna mi aveva dato consiglio:
Nei periodi difficili, vai avanti a piccoli passi. Fai ciò che devi fare, ma poco alla volta. Non pensare al futuro, nemmeno a quello che potrebbe accadere domani. Lava i piatti. Togli la polvere. Scrivi una lettera. Fai una minestra.
Vedi?
Stai andando avanti passo dopo passo. Fai un passo e fermati. Riposati. Fatti i complimenti. Fai un altro passo. Poi un altro.
Non te ne accorgerai, ma i tuoi passi diventeranno sempre più grandi.
E verrà il tempo in cui potrai pensare al futuro senza piangere.
Elena Mikhalkova, La stanza delle chiavi antiche
the pigeon doesn’t understand your disdain for it; it coos for you anyway. the tree does not know you own an axe for it; its leaves sway in the sun anyway. the starving cat eats the poison you put out. it doesn’t know how not to trust. the earth forgives you, in spite of yourself
why do "balls" imply toughness and "pussy" imply weakness when the slightest flick to the nuts sends a guy to his knees, yet a vagina can push out an entire being.?????
actually your community IS coming to save you, people are going to show up for you, love is going to find you, strangers are going to be like angels, the world conspires for your highest good
Non vorrei risultare la pazza complottista di turno MA avete mai pensato che la famiglia nucleare fondata sulla coppia che punta a isolare (soprattutto ma non solo le donne) è la migliore amica del sistema capitalista? Non c'è nessuna relazione più radicale dell'amicizia 🥹🥰
Your heart is not a state secret. You are meant to declare allegiances. You are meant to have favourites. Write the letter. Miss the train. Stay up until dawn talking. You should be caught red-handed loving something, someone.
“People get used to anything. The less you think about your oppression, the more your tolerance for it grows. After a while, people just think oppression is the normal state of things. But to become free, you have to be acutely aware of being a slave.” -Assata Shakur