i don't know who needs to hear this but in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you’re innocent in the story you created
i don't know who needs to hear this but in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you’re innocent in the story you created
The spiritual awakening nobody talks about is the one where you realize God has been orchestrating black swan events in your life specifically to destroy every false thing you built your identity on, and what you thought was bad luck was actually precision demolition. The reason it had to be unpredictable is because if you saw it coming you would have braced for it
The cheat code nobody talks about: Being reliable. Answer emails quickly. Show up on time. Do what you said. Keep small promises. Remember details. In a world where everyone is flaky, reliability looks like genius. It's not talent.
If you pay attention to the patterns of your life, you’ll realise that everything always works out. Everything always takes you to a greater destination. You always grow, and the things you think you can't survive, you somehow divinely make it through. That's life. Remember that.
Neuroplasticity works faster under high emotional intensity. If you can resist a craving when it’s at its peak, you get a bigger rewiring effect. This is why the hardest moments matter most, they’re not setbacks, they’re high-voltage opportunities to change.
Instead of “I’m bad at this”.
Say “This is new for me”.
This gives your brain the space to learn instead of shut down.
This is neuroplasticity in real time.
When I was 19 years old I dropped out of college to try to escape a bad situation, and I ended up at my grandparent's dairy farm. I spent many days making and selling cheese, doing deliveries, milking cows, and keeping the shop open. Then I'd go back to my room and write at night. It was the first time in a long time I felt some kind of peace.
I ended up leaving to go to Austin because I was scared of leading a mediocre, insular life. In those years since I've published 5 books, been a game designer at multiple companies, got married, and had a child. But now I can see how every decision has led me back here. Back home to the farm my grandparent's left behind for me. Back to starting up my grandfather's cheese business again. Back home to a life that is not mediocre, as I'd presumed before, but instead infinite in its depth.
Anyway, I hope you like this cheddar I made for you.
life is strange. you arrive with nothing, spend your whole life chasing everything, and still leave with nothing, make sure your soul gains more than your hands
Unwritten rule of making money is when you get a loophole of making money you shut your mouth, the only time you talk is after you have exhausted the source.