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From my experience in marriage counselling, the point at which a marriage becomes very difficult to save is when it reaches the stage of resentment.

This is when, deep down, one or both spouses feel resentful towards the other, but feel unable to truly voice their pain.

They feel wronged.

They feel their best years have been stolen.

They feel a potentially beautiful relationship has been ruined.

And in their mind, it is all because of the carelessness, neglect, or repeated hurt caused by their spouse.

The tragedy of resentment is that it often grows silently. Issues are not discussed. Pain is buried. Conversations are avoided. And what could have been resolved early begins to fester beneath the surface.

The antidote to resentment is open and honest communication.

If you are beginning to feel resentment towards your spouse, and you feel they will not understand you, dismiss you, or turn the conversation against you, then it is critical to get help before the resentment becomes deeper.

A good therapist or counsellor can help both spouses understand what is really happening, uncover the root issues, and create a practical plan to rebuild trust, safety, and connection.

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As the new Islamic year begins with the blessed month of Muharram, let it arrive with repentance, reflection, and a sincere intention for renewal.

A renewal of your covenant with Allah Most High.

A renewal of your sacred bond of marriage.

A renewal of your care, honour, and duty towards your parents.

A renewal of your mission to raise righteous believers.

A renewal of your commitment to support the weak and serve the oppressed.

A renewal of your goal to live for something greater than yourself.

Let this new year not simply be a change in date, but a change in direction.

May this new year and new moon enter upon us with security and faith, safety and Islam, protection from Shaytan, and the pleasure of the Most Merciful.

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Most people run to distractions when life gets heavy.

Some drown themselves in sleep.

Some in music.

Some in endless scrolling.

Some pretend they are okay until their heart becomes exhausted.

But peace was never meant to be found in escaping the world.

Real peace is found in running back to Allah.

The more distant you become from Him, the heavier your chest feels.

And the closer you return to Him, the lighter your soul becomes.

One sincere sujood can heal in a way that years of distractions never could.

Because this dunya was never designed to satisfy you completely.

It was designed to lead vou back to your Rabb.

"So flee to Allah." (Qur’an 51:50)

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Shaykh al-Hadith Zakariyya Khandlawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

"I heard the scholars and the righteous say, and I have witnessed it myself, that whoever fails to respect and honour their teachers is deprived of knowledge, and whoever fails to honour their parents is deprived of provision."

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Epstein, Shayṭān and Gaza

For so long, we have spoken about Shayṭān (Satan) as theory, as though he’s a metaphor, like a poetic label for “bad vibes,” without treating him as a real operating force in practice. Of course, we believe in his existence but fail to see how much of what we complain about—governments, media, lobby groups, or their likes—are but tools in Shayṭān’s hands, and allies of the Dajjāl’s greater cause.

Yet, the Qur’an offers a completely different framing, telling us that Iblīs (the chief Shayṭān) is a distinct creature with a name, nickname, children, a physical form, strategy, memory, human and Jinnī allies, troops, traps, banners, and a long war to ruin mankind. It tells us that his role isn’t confined to whispers in prayer or nagging thoughts, but has key influence on governments, societies, economics, politics, military affairs, cultures, and trends.

Read how Allah says: أَلَمْ تَرَ أَنَّا أَرْسَلْنَا الشَّيَاطِينَ عَلَى الْكَافِرِينَ تَؤُزُّهُمْ أَزًّا

“Do you not see that We send the devils upon the disbelievers, inciting them with constant incitement?” (Al-Qur’an 19:83)

And Iblīs himself declared his project: لَأَحْتَنِكَنَّ ذُرِّيَّتَهُ

“I will surely seize control of his descendants…” (Al-Qur’an 17:62)

The point is not to obsess over him, but to stop underestimating him and to actively notice his marks on the world around us. Some of the ugliest features of modern life must be read as the fingerprints of this ancient enemy: *the organised destruction of family*, systematic breakdown of religion, the normalizing of pornography, the altering of God’s creation, the centralizing of entertainment and distraction, and trapping people in cycles of desire and despair.

The Sīrah mentions how Shayṭān was physically present in Quraysh’s meeting as they discussed what to do with the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). He actively participated in the discussion in human form, offering suggestions that raised the ceiling of brutality beyond what disbelievers and idolaters might have imagined on their own. So yes, in person, Shayṭān is present amid lobby groups, private parties, secret meetings, forums, and fundraisers. When someone describes today as “the civilization of the devil”, they’re not being dramatic at all.

The newly released “Epstein files” are nothing but one manifestation of this Shayṭān–Dajjāl–human alliance. Not in the childish sense of blaming the devil to excuse criminals, no, Islam never lets a sinner outsource responsibility. But in the Qur’anic sense, yes: it bears all the fingerprints of Shayṭān himself; the weaponization of lust, the promotion of perversion, the monetization of bodies, the normalization of the abnormal, the politics of blackmail and domination—and then laughs as people argue about “freedom” and “liberty” while quietly tightening his chains around them.

The men and women of Gaza are standing against this Satanic alliance and continue to demonstrate their willingness to pay the price for doing so today, for Paradise tomorrow. Their struggle against the invader’s killing machine does not cancel out the unseen demonic dimension of their plight. In fact, its signs are written all over it and, with every scandal, every file released, are clearer today than ever before.

With the above said, this is precisely why the scholars of Islam never wrote about Shayṭān as a character outside history, but as a living metaphysical creature, present from the moment you wake up to the moment you sleep. In fact, even in your sleep, he stalks, utilizing every possible moment of vulnerability to harm you.

Since his war is staged and intelligent, our response, as Muslims, must match that energy. This begins by learning his entrances, because when you can name the tactic, you can break it, and when you do that, you can confidently recite:

إِنَّ كَيْدَ الشَّيْطَانِ كَانَ ضَعِيفًا

“Indeed, the plotting of Shayṭān is ever weak.” (Al-Qur’an 4:76)

(Ali Hammuda)

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Language shapes the way we think.

One of the major shifts in modern discussions around same-sex relationships is that desires and behaviours are often presented as a person’s core identity. Instead of saying that a person experiences same-sex attraction, society often says, “This person is gay.”

This may seem like a small difference, but it changes the entire conversation. When sexuality is framed as someone’s identity, any disagreement with same-sex relationships can be made to sound like a rejection of the person themselves.

As Muslims, we need to be clear and compassionate.

We do not define a human being by their desires. Every person is a creation of Allah and must be treated with dignity. At the same time, our moral guidance comes from the Qur’an and Sunnah, not from changing social norms.

This is why it is better to use more accurate language, such as:

“This person experiences same-sex attraction.”

Rather than:

“This person is gay.”

This helps our children understand an important distinction: disagreeing with same-sex relationships is not the same as hating, bullying, or denying the humanity of a person.

We can uphold Islamic teachings clearly while still treating people with justice, dignity and good character.

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Pride Month is currently being marked in many schools across the country. Children may be hearing messages such as “love is love”, “accept everyone for who they are”, and that LGBT identities and relationships should be celebrated.

As Muslim parents, we have a responsibility to be aware of what our children are being taught and to help them understand these issues through the lens of Islam.

Just as people have legal rights and protections in society, religious communities also have the right to teach their beliefs. Muslim parents have the right and responsibility to explain to their children what Islam teaches about marriage, sexuality, modesty, desires, and obedience to Allah.

We must be clear with our children: in Islam, same-sex relationships are not permitted. Our morals are not shaped by changing social trends, but by the Qur’an, the Sunnah, and the guidance of our scholars.

At the same time, clarity must never become cruelty.

Islam teaches us to reject what Allah has prohibited, but it does not allow us to bully, mock, insult, harass, or dehumanise anyone. We can disagree with a lifestyle or behaviour while still treating people with dignity and good character.

Our children need both confidence and compassion:

Confidence to know that Islam is true, even when society disagrees.

Compassion to treat every person with respect, even when we do not agree with their choices.

Parents should speak to their children calmly, wisely, and regularly. Help them understand that not every desire should be followed. In Islam, we are all tested with different desires, and true success lies in submitting ourselves to Allah, not in reshaping the religion to fit society.

Teach your children the Islamic position clearly. Protect them from confusion.

And show them how to hold firm to their faith without becoming harsh, hateful, or disrespectful.

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Ma‘rūf al-Karkhī رحمه الله said:

“When Allah wishes good for a servant, He opens for him the door of action and closes for him the door of argumentation. And when He wishes evil for a servant, He opens for him the door of argumentation and closes for him the door of action.”

Not every argument deserves your energy.

Before entering a debate, even with your spouse, pause and ask yourself:

Will this lead to understanding?
Will it bring benefit?
Will it improve the situation?
Or is it only feeding my ego?

If it’s only feeding your ego, leave it to a side, even if you know you are in the right.

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How sins can damage relationships

The Qur’an and Sunnah teach us that sins don’t just harm us, they can also affect the love, harmony, and barakah between people.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“Two people do not love each other for the sake of Allah (or Islam) and then fall out, except because of a sin one of them commits.”

Scholars explained: sometimes the “coldness” you feel, the sudden tension, or the unnecessary arguments may be a wake-up call, not only to fix the relationship with people, but first to fix the relationship with Allah.

So before we rush to blame the other person, ask:
•Have I been slipping in salah, lowering my gaze, backbiting, lying, disrespecting parents, consuming haram, or neglecting Allah’s rights?
•Have I wronged someone and not made it right?
•Have I kept doing a sin without tawbah?

A powerful mindset shift:
If there’s a rift in marriage, family, or friendships, one of the first “repairs” is sincere tawbah.

A simple action plan for today:
1.Make sincere istighfar (with regret and resolve).
2.Identify one repeated sin and cut it off.
3.If you wronged someone, return rights / apologise.
4.Make du‘a: “Allahumma aslih baynana, wa allif bayna qulubina.”
(O Allah, reconcile us and unite our hearts.)

Counselling can be a means and a blessing when needed, but never forget: the strongest foundation for love is obedience to Allah and protecting the heart from sin.

(Adapted from Surkheel Abu Aliyah)

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The sound of an ambulance feels disturbing until it stops outside your own door.

"Sorry' is just a word until it comes from a doctor.

Funeral food tastes ordinary until it's cooked in your own home.

Hospital corridors look normal until you're the one praying in them.

Life always seems easy when pain belongs to someone else.

But one day, life teaches everyone that grief, loss, and heartbreak never truly make sense until they become personal.

And that's when you realise - nothing is more fragile than the life we take for granted.

So value every breath by hastening towards good deeds and be grateful for every difficulty that Allah has saved you from.

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Ibn Abbas said,

“Three people I can never repay:

A person who greeted me with salam before I greeted them,

a person who made space for me in a gathering,

a person whose feet became dusty in fulfilling a need of mine

and the fourth can't be repaid except by Allah."

He was asked, "Who is that?"

He said, "A person who spent the night thinking about who to approach for help with a problem, thought me worthy and approached me."

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The sound of an ambulance feels disturbing until it stops outside your own door.

"Sorry' is just a word until it comes from a doctor.

Funeral food tastes ordinary until it's cooked in your own home.

Hospital corridors look normal until you're the one praying in them.

Life always seems easy when pain belongs to someone else.

But one day, life teaches everyone that grief, loss, and heartbreak never truly make sense until they become personal.

And that's when you realise - nothing is more fragile than the life we take for granted.

So value every breath by hastening towards good deeds and be grateful for every difficulty that Allah has saved you from.

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Focus on what is right, not just on what is wrong.

Research on successful marriages has found that happy couples maintain a strong culture of positivity. Even when discussing problems, they make far more positive comments than negative ones.

Instead of saying, “We never have any fun together,” they might say, “We always laugh when we spend time together.”

Instead of focusing only on their spouse’s shortcomings, they regularly notice and appreciate their strengths.

This doesn’t mean ignoring problems or pretending everything is perfect. It means refusing to let problems become the entire story of your marriage.

Think of your relationship as a love bank account.

Every expression of gratitude, act of kindness, compliment, affectionate gesture, shared laugh, and thoughtful deed is a deposit.

Every criticism, harsh word, insult, or moment of neglect is a withdrawal.

The healthiest marriages are not those with no withdrawals. They are those where the deposits greatly outweigh them.

So make it a habit to notice the good. Express appreciation often. Thank your spouse for the little things. Celebrate what is working, not just what needs fixing.

A marriage flourishes in an atmosphere of gratitude, encouragement, and positivity.

Make regular deposits into your love bank account before expecting to make withdrawals.

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Some spouses are quick to criticise and slow to notice the good.

When their spouse makes a mistake, they jump on it immediately. They don’t give them a chance to explain, correct themselves, or improve. Sometimes they even exaggerate the mistake:

“You always do this.”
“You never do that.”

But in doing so, they overlook all the times their spouse did try, did help, did show care, and did get it right.

Constant criticism slowly wears down a marriage. It makes a person feel unappreciated, discouraged, and as though their efforts are pointless.

Correction has its place, but it should be gentle, limited, and constructive.

Praise should be far more common.

Notice the effort.
Appreciate the small things.
Thank your spouse sincerely.
Encourage what you want to see more of.

A spouse who feels valued will naturally want to give more.

Be slow to criticise. Be quick to compliment.

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If you sit on a table that feasts on the pain of others, you will be the next meal.

(Ismail Satia)

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