just back here to say: listen to “Gimme! Gimme! Gimme! (A Man After Midnight)” by ABBA and really let yourself jam with that baseline when the chorus hits oh my godddd. trust me. you’re welcome.
A lot of straight men don’t like consensual sex. That is why they call sexually liberated women “easy”. They’d much rather coerce you into having sex, opposed to you immediately consenting.