“Marry someone you’re physically attracted to because they will annoy you at some point, and when they annoy you, at least you will be looking at someone who is fine. Someone who is not fine to you will just make you angrier.” - My Mother
I definitely believe that self esteem is community built. It’s such a struggle to actually believe you’re worth anything if your surroundings don’t support that. With that being said, go where you are valued, cared for, and loved. It’ll do wonders for your self esteem.