Government: You owe us money. It’s called taxes.
Me: How much do I owe?
Gov’t: You have to figure that out.
Me: I just pay whatever I want?
Gov’t: Oh, no we know exactly how much you owe. But you have to guess that number, too.
Me: What if I get it wrong?
Gov’t: You go to prison.
If you grew up in a home where your family felt like familiar strangers, you might be love-starved.
You might move fast and accept breadcrumbs for love.
Here's Why:
If you really step back and watch how adults interact, it’s clear how many of us are still children inside. How badly we’re trying to overcompensate for our own shame. And how desperate we are to be loved.
A "nice person" persona often holds shame and repressed anger.
When expectations aren't met, they're no longer nice.
Why some people wear a "nice person" mask:
Witnessing your parents with regret at the end of their lives is a heartbreaking experience. No one talks about how hard it is to grieve the life their parent never got to live.