I came across the word vaginismus while I was reading one time, I looked it up almost casually and then sat with what I’d just read for quite some time. I’ve been meaning to talk about it since then and kept stalling, and I think part of that is the deeply internalized belief that women just don’t discuss these things openly.
But here we are, this thread is for every woman who needs to know about vaginismus🩷
I don't buy that the hate against Black people is only about their skin color. There has to be something bigger behind it because no society would set up all its power, laws, and culture just to hold people down over a simple difference in skin shade
Dostoevsky was 28 when they stood him in front of a firing squad. Blindfolded. Hands tied. He could hear the rifles being loaded.
At the last second a messenger on horseback arrived. The Tsar had commuted the sentence. The entire execution was staged. Psychological torture designed to break him.
It worked. He had a seizure on the spot.
They sent him to a labour camp in Siberia. 4 years. Freezing. Starving. Sleeping on wooden planks next to murderers. His epilepsy got worse. He had no paper. No pen. Nothing.
When he got out he was broke. His first wife died. His brother died. He inherited his brothers debts. He was so desperate for money he signed a contract with a publisher that would have given away the rights to everything hed ever write if he missed the deadline.
He wrote The Gambler in 26 days to make it. Dictated it to a 20 year old stenographer named Anna. Married her three months later.
Then the real work started. Crime and Punishment. The Idiot. Demons. The Brothers Karamazov. The greatest novels in the history of the Russian language. Maybe any language.
The man who stood blindfolded before the firing squad, who convulsed on the ground while soldiers watched, who slept next to killers in Siberia for 4 years, who was buried in debt and grief.
That man wrote: "every minute can be an eternity of happiness."
He earned the right to say it.
its never over. never give up fren.
Please READ. Poems, books, academic literature, subtitles on movies, pamphlets, recipes. Please please please, read something.
Even if it's the room, just READ.
Umberto Eco, who owned 50,000 books, had this to say about home libraries:
“It is foolish to think that you have to read all the books you buy, as it is foolish to criticize those who buy more books than they will ever be able to read. It would be like saying that you should use all the cutlery or glasses or screwdrivers or drill bits you bought before buying new ones.
“There are things in life that we need to always have plenty of supplies, even if we will only use a small portion.
“If, for example, we consider books as medicine, we understand that it is good to have many at home rather than a few: when you want to feel better, then you go to the ‘medicine closet’ and choose a book. Not a random one, but the right book for that moment. That’s why you should always have a nutrition choice!
“Those who buy only one book, read only that one and then get rid of it. They simply apply the consumer mentality to books, that is, they consider them a consumer product, a good. Those who love books know that a book is anything but a commodity.”
Not really sure why I'm even saying this, but lost my mum just over 6 months ago now. Handled it okay.
On a rooftop bar in Portugal last week, on a golfing trip with the lads, I absolutely lost it because it's the sort of time I'd have sent her a photo.
Grief, bloody hell.
@ChristKing79265@TevinMacharia Oooyo.... Preachers of the gospel of suffering. So seeking heavenly rewards means we should suffer on earth right?! We are NOT subscribing
Kiambu County has shown KRA dust.
KRA audited the county.
And found the county was collecting serious money from:
- Parking fees
- Business licenses
- Market fees
- Renting stalls
- Renting stadia
- And other county fees
Then KRA asked:
- Where is our VAT?
- If you charge 10,000 for stalls
- You should have added 16% VAT
So Kiamburians should have paid: 11,600
And the extra 1,600 goes to KRA.
But Kiambu did not charge VAT. So KRA became dramatic and said:
- No problem. You'll give us that VAT from your own county coffers.
It is at that moment that, Gov Wamatangi knew hii si mchezo.
He ran to court.
He argued:
- The county is not a business entity.
- It is a government unit performing public functions
- It does not operate for profit
- The county fees charged are already a form of tax
- Charging VAT on them is double taxation
- It is illegal
The court agreed.
And KRA’s VAT demand was set aside.
This is a big precedent.
It means:
- County services should not be inflated by VAT.
- Public services are not businesses to charge 16% VAT.
Buy your children a book every month and have a date to talk about the book and what they’ve read. Talk about the characters like they’re real. Bond over literature. Debate the lessons and decision making. Over food and drinks. Cultivate readers and build their collection
I was out with my sons and my youngest started crying because he wanted a box of tampons thinking it was candy. My middle son yelled,
'Those aren't candy, they're TAMPONS for Mommy's WIENER!' My oldest screamed, 'Mommy doesn't have a WIENER she has a VAGINA!'
Wear a condom
Maternity leave shouldn’t have stipulations, if you had to deliver your baby at 22 weeks and the baby didn’t survive and your work tells you that you get 5 days bereavement but not your leave because you dont have a baby…. I have some choice words for them. You did have a baby. You gave birth. Your body is still healing, you are bleeding, your hormones are reeling from loss and birth, you’re lactating. YOU GAVE BIRTH. We really need to do better for women. Period.