I really tried this thing of gentle communication, opening up, articulating my thoughts/feelings etc & I have to say, y’all be on some bullshit. I’m going back to telling you uyang’dakelwa nje and leaving it at that. Weh sofa nini
Every 3-6 months, it's smart to take a step back and see if you are still on the path you chose to pursue, or if you changed directions to pursue the path someone wanted for you.
You can only find out what you actually believe (rather than what you think you believe) by watching how you act. You simply don’t know what you believe, before that. You are too complex to understand yourself.